Non medical but worrying day off that I can't cover wwyd ?

[AngelaChill]

My CM has found a lump in her breast which obviously she's worried sick about and has booked herself an appointment at a private hospital for Tuesday, she's told me this, not asked if it's ok iyswim. Now I know i'd be worried to death about finding a lump but I really cannot take this time off and DH would be unpaid which we can't afford. I don't want to sound like a heartless cow but she had Friday off at short notice for an uncles funeral and now this, would it be completely awful to ask her to rebook for Wednesday ?

mines been on stag weekend so very tired, shame.

i'm gonna watch this thread today and see what happens! As a newbie here i am utterly astonished by this thread!

Welcome newbie

I've been watching this thread but not posted yet. Are you astonished by the comments by AngelaChill or the responses to them?

looneytune, hi. Mainly I am saddened that anyone should even be asking themselves this kind of question, let alone a bunch of complete strangers. Secondly, there seems to be no recognition that the poor CM's ordeal is not going to be over on Tuesday, this is potentially life-changing. Thirdly, it appears that angelachill has chosen a lifestyle without thinking through and taking responsiblity for the consequences. Maybe she need stop worrying about what the rest of the world thinks about the size of her house, what she wears on the school run, referring to the CM as a nanny fgs. and just get back to basics - health and happiness!

Totally agree with you. I got so at this thread and had so much I wanted to say but so many other people have already said what I wanted to say and she's so heartless, nothing will get through to her!!

Honestly, most of us here on MN are nice people who do care for others

Are there any day nurseries that do emergency care? I know DS's one does if you give them a ring, even if your child isn't registered with them. Try ringing round them to see if any can help or ask your CM if any of her CM colleagues would be able to take your little one for the day.

My childminder did something similar. Her daughter in law had huge problems with her pregnancy and had to be delivered but was also told that the baby was so badly deformed that she wouldn't survive. I took the time off and got disciplinary action against me. I'd do the same again in a heartbeat. She was like family to us and I would do the same for family. If you feel you can ask her to reschedule then fine. If you do then I don't know how it'll affect your working relationship.

Actually (back in the Real World) , if there were really a situation in which the choice was 'move the appt or I will risk losing a job and you will be out of work', I WOULD at least make the CM AWARE of the situation! Wouldn't you?

I would make her aware bacause she would maybe able to suggest someone else to have DD for the day. It's a horrible choice between asking what everyone has told you is heartless and possibly losing your job.
Could DH take the day off but do some overtime to make it up so as not to lose money.

Just want to make this clear - I personally said she was heartless due to her whole attitude about it. Her wording was TERRIBLE imo!

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i think she's a troll making it up get a reaction - which is exactly what she got. if she is for real then she off her rocker! alot of what she said doesnt add up imo.

This is awful, surely the person who cares for your children should be a person you care about?
There is no way yu would be 'sacked' for taking a day off, especially in such circumstances.

Oh, I've just read a little more and it seems like this is one of those pointless threads that gets people worked up and then you realise the person is ignoring advice or help or just a troll, goddam I hate them

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Has she a posting history does anyone know?

Poor CM to lose Uncle and then find breastlump in onemonth, and then to have a Mother like this

She does have posting history but I think she is still fairly "new".

i was reading in at her posts but kept quiet but mainly confused at her taking a full time job just to give a childminder a job? why on earth would someone leave their child with someone if they didnt have to just to give someone a job? [puzzled]

i was reading in at her posts but kept quiet but mainly confused at her taking a full time job just to give a childminder a job? why on earth would someone leave their child with someone if they didnt have to just to give someone a job? [puzzled]

so confused i posted twice

Well for those who are interested DH has managed a day off much to my amazement so alls well that ends well.

I have also decided to give the nanny/cm notice asap as the thread has thrown up plenty of food for thought and tbh I was trying to do the wrong thing for me for the right reasons for other people and got myself into a stressful situation I just don't need.
Thanks to those who replied with helpful to suggestions.

Lots of people gave you helpful suggestions, but you had already made up your mind.

here here

How convienient for you.

Odd odd odd

glad you got sorted Angelachill - seemed mad for you to work just to give someone a job and im sure it will make life easier for you ! also hope cm is ok

Eh ? isn't life meant to be convienient ?

Thank you cleaning lady