ok this is a hard one.
au pair came here to live nearly 5 years ago. 2 years ago my second was born and I went back to work full time when child was 6months old. au pair then more qualified and I employed her as nanny. still live in. 9months later I get made redundant. give nanny 3 months notice but invite her to remain going back to au pair terms. agreed to her also supplementing by working elsewhere occasionally.
fast forward and she is rarely here... working elsewhere. using my car....
the arrangement isn't working for me anymore but this has been her home for 5 years nearly. at moment we are on informal arrangement.
how much notice to leave is fair????