When do you pay your AP?

[Mendi]

Our first ever AP is arriving tonight. When we were discussing terms I said I would pay her each week in arrears, so I was thinking that I will say to her that I will pay her each week on Friday (starting next Friday).

But is this a bit unfair because she won't have any money for the coming week? Should I give her a little cash up front?

Just feeling quite nervous about making it all work. I have got her a few "welcome" things, made her room nice, got new bedding etc. What should I be doing with her in the first week to make her feel at home and comfortable? She has already joined the local Facebook AP page.

I pay in arrears every Friday.

She will probably have some money from home and most likely not do much in the first week anyway.

I have a new au-pair coming this Saturday so feel nervous too.
Apart from making her room welcoming and taking plenty of time to show her everything I dont think that there's much else you can do.

What is the local facebook ap page?

Someone already posted this link before, you may find some things useful:

www.universalaupairs.com/family/living_with_an_au_pair.html#houserules

Hi verap, I saw your other thread. I hope your new AP is more successful.

The Facebook AP page is a group for nannies and APs in your area, most areas have one. If you put "[your town] nannies and au pairs" in the search bar, it should come up. Then your AP can find some local friends.

I used to pay on a Friday, by standing order (once they had a UK bank account sorted) to avoid forgetting. Any expenses etc settled either in cash or by extra bank payment if a larger amount.

Last AP plucked up courage to ask if I could change payment to Thurs instead, as it helped her to have cash for weekend activities

I pay in advance on Mondays. Never had any problems with this arrangement.