Hi Droflove
Re lunch; ask the nanny what she usually has, or will she like me bring sandwiches, just make sure you have tea/coffee/milk/bread in for her or as others have said add to your food order/shop
Re picking up groceries; yes fine just make sure you leave her a kitty and ask her to keep receipts - put in a jar for you.
Re housework; some nannies only do baby related housework, others happy to do more. You need to have a contract, so this is something you can address. Personally I?m happy to do what you have asked, especially with a baby who will be sleeping.
Re schedule; don?t forget she will be due holiday with you. 5.6 days per year for each day worked. So for one third of the year i.e. four months she will be due a third of the annual amount. Could she have her holiday when your mum is here? Of course usually you choose half she chooses half, but discuss with her.
Re sick leave; sounds fair if you have to pay someone else, but hopefully she will not be off sick too much, most nannies would always come to work unless very ill, as do not want to let their employer down.
Re book with info; yes write as much as you can, and don?t forget doctor?s info, emergency contacts, and emergency key is she is locked out, where stop cock is for water, baby's normal feed/sleep pattern.
Best wishes to you, it is not easy going back to work with such a little one. I have done it myself and found the worse bit was before I did it; and was worrying about it all! When I was at work and knew my baby was with a nice nanny I was fine. So don?t forget to factor you own treats in you deserve them too.