Nanny taking pics

[gobblygook]

I have an amazing nanny for my 11 month old DS. She's been part time with us for five months and ds loves her and I have nothing but praise - and I work at home so I am involved. her references were outstanding.

This week she got a new iPhone - she's had a dodgy phone that hasn't taken pics. Then she took some pics of DS and a video if him laughing. She showed me and sent me the video - but I feel uncomfortable about it. I don't think is about anything except her fondness for him but I'd prefer she didn't.

Equally, I'm finding it really hard to think whether a) I'm being silly b) how I approach the conversation without offending her. Shes an important part of our day to day.

Wondered what people thought? Or any suggestions for effective, sensitive handling...

Thanks for all your considered responses - especially those from Thebody who seems to think I need to have the point rammed home over and over again! I don't. I get it, really. I do really get it.

Gobblygook if you are not happy with it just tell her, you are employing her. I am a nanny and a mum and from a mums point of view I can see your point. I cannot give a good reason why I feel like this I just would not like it.

I'm glad you "get it" now.
As for your comments to thebody ...

gobblygook,

Hi when I first read your post I felt a bit sick and I too would feel uncomfortable if any child of mine was in the same situation. Your Nanny sounds amazing, genuine and very caring, which are great qualities. What you do not know is what else will happen with those photos?

The photos of your children are beyond your control unless you have a signed agreement with your Nanny that the pictures taken by her of your children do not end up on a website. I have read somewhere about some parents being very concerned about photos of their young children, taken by other people turning up on social networking sites, without their prior permission.

Some people will agree with this and some people will not, it is all a matter of opinion.

I understand your discomfort! I would say directly how it makes me feel and ask not to photograph especially videos. It's their privacy after all...

Gosh, can't help feeling that this is all little ott and quite sad! I adore the kids I look after, take heaps of photos! I'll sometimes show them to a nanny friend or my sister in a 'oh you've got to see this cute photo; isn't she gorgeous!' Type of way. Is that really that bad!??? What exactly is the danger of showing your close family and friends a photo of your charge? Its because I love my charge that I want to take photos of her. It's the same as you showing a cute photo to your friend. It's lovely, it shows she cares. As long as they dont get emailed or put online, i don't see the problem.

Apologies if this has been mentioned but maybe buy a digital camera for her to use and leave in your home?

I take loads of photos, email them weekly to the parents. I am a nanny. These children are as part of mylife as my own and id be so upset if a parent felt howyou do.

This thread is from 2011.

If this makes you feel so uncomfortable then simply sit down and tell her you'd prefer her not to take pics and that you don't want anything on Facebook etc. it's not a big deal..

I've always taken pictures of all my charges to send them to the parents so they'd know what their little ones were up to. I never delete them, always keep them for myself not to post on Facebook but simply because they mean a lot to me and I just enjoy looking back and re-viewing pictures of how young they were when I started etc. and I will very occasionally show them to my parents back home when they ask if I have a picture of the family and how the children have changed since I started but that's it.