Finding it hard to cope working full time

[Lasvegas]

Not sure why I cannot manage my life and wondered if others who work full time also felt overwhelmed.

I work full time - 9 to 5. I have an hours commute involving walking, train, bus into London. I found commute stressful before I had DD so now even worse.

DD is 2.9 I drop her at 8am at childcare. 3 out of 5 evenings AP collects DD and I collect 2 evenings. AP cleans house and spends another 4 hours a week on chores, hanging out washing, unloading dishwasher, buying milk/bread.

Despite all this domestic help I find my life overwhelming. So stressful getting DD out of house in am, she faffs as she doesn't want me to go to work. In evening I only see her for 1 hour before bed and she has tantrums as she doesn't want to have a bath etc. I realise that she is prob like this because she doesn't see enough of me, but the guilt makes me feel worse and I get so angry with her. Then angry with myself

I get up at 6.30am but am always late for work because DD delays me - i know its because she loves me, but my job is such that I should be on time. As it is I have to wake her at 7.20 am so waking her earlier isn't an option.

Am thinking about asking GP to prescribe something to make me less hassled. Every other aspect of my life is story book perfect. I just don't seem to have enough hours in the day to be caring/ calm mum to DD before/after work.

hugs to you also, what we have decided to do is downsize move away from London back to Scotland get a bigger house for less money, have no holidays and survive on one salary.

I've been a SAHM for 13 months and in the most part I'm loving it, I'm pregnant with baby no 2 as well now. Yes I really miss my independence I was the biggest earner by far and had a really good career that was progressing. DP has retrained and is back at the bottom of the ladder career wise so we both decided it would be better for me to have a career break. I don't resent this and I don't know what effect having a good few years off will have on my career. I'll have all the childcare issues to face when I go back as well.

Good luck to you whatever you decide, it's hard it really is.