Those on my nov thread know that I'm five days overdue and not being very patient. However, having read loads of birth books like gaskin and the like, im not sure whether im mentally keeping this baby in.
I have mental in laws, i mean really clingy and possessive. Dh does loads to put them in their place but i'm petrified that my baby, once born, becomes part of them.
The have another grandchild, a 17 month old girl and my MIL looks after her four nights per week, she is at nursery rest of time and with parents three evenings and sunday. My in laws find this normal part of having a grandchild. whilst ive explained im going to be a SAHM and breastfeeding(hopefully) and things will be different.
they already drop in unannounced, despite being asked repeadedly not to, they make comments about when they have my baby overnight which ive said wont be for a long time. They want to know when im in labour and ive said no, they want to attend my home birth..again no. and i just know that despite being told not to, they would rush straight over to see the baby.
they do this out of love and are basically the primary carers for the other grandchild which is none of my business, but it has set an unrealisitic precendence for my now overdue baby.
Im convinced that part of it failing to show up is the fear that releasing my baby makes it part of the world and less mine. I know that sounds selfish and irrational. What were your experiences of in laws at a time when you want to be selfish with the person you have nurtured for nine months. how can i let these feelings go?