Child benefit

[VenusJupiter]

I'm not married to DP, but we live together .. My feeling is he might have claimed child benefit before me. I have already submitted a claim. I'm the one that is obviously on maternity leave. I'm just wondering if HMRC will notice this and the claim will come to me? First child, so no experience of this..

Do you not communicate with your DP?

Ask.

Ask him. If a competing child benefit claim comes in then they will investigate to see how the primary parent is. I have no idea how that will work when you’re a couple and live together.

You need to speak to him.

"Two people cannot get Child Benefit for the same child. If you and someone else are responsible for the same child, agree between yourselves who will get Child Benefit. If you cannot agree, HM Revenue and Customs (HMRC) will decide who will get it."

https://www.gov.uk/child-benefit/eligibility

No

My understanding is the child benefit will be paid to the application received first. You can appeal this and apply for mandatory consideration. My only knowledge of this was with a separated couple who did not live together. The resident parent was able to provide proof that the dentist, doctor etc was registered to their address and a court order showing they had the child the majority of the time.

I don't know how you would prove it if you are co-habiting.

No what? No you won't ask him? No you don't communicate with him?

I'm confused. Are you together?

No, you won’t ask him?

What is going on financially in that house? Are you being financially abused by him?

In my opinion if you are living together as a couple raising a child you should know each others financials.
You should know what goes into his account and what comes out. Same for him about your bank account.
Only one parent can claim child benefit.
If a parent is not working and being a SAHP then they should be the one who claims it because for each year you receive CB up until the child is 12 the SAHP will receive credits towards their state pension.
@VenusJupiter are you a SAHM? If yes - you need it in your name.
Why haven't you asked him?

I read your other thread a few days ago.
You need to get away from him.

Duplicate post

You need to claim the child benift if you are the primary carer. You also get NI stamps that count towards your pension.

Is your partner controlling or abusive? The men I've know that have claimed the child benifit have done it as a means to control and abuse their partners. Apart from one who is actually the primary caregiver.

Yes he is . This is why I'm asking. It's the final nail in the coffin and I think I'm gonna have to leave

To the above post , Yes I am a SAHM as I am on maternity leave at present .

Basically I put in a claim first, but have not had any confirmation email ( didn't create a gov account )
He says today he put one in ( he did it behind my back)
We agreed ages before in front of my parents that I would get it.

Hi all,

Thanks for taking the time to reply to me, so basically I have received the child benefit (checked bank account ) from the claim I put in. I am not married to him and claimed as single .
Is there any way he can counter claim? He said tonight he has put in his own claim, but it has already come to me.
I am the one on maternity leave and he works two jobs ..

Your recieving the money. He will have to counter the claim. You are on knave and can prove that you are the primary parent.

Sorry , leave did you mean?

Yes sorry typo. You are on leave. Even when you return to work I have a feeling that you will still be the primary parent doing all the childcare, waking nights etc. I don't understand what his relational is to claim it apart from using it as a means to financially abuse you. Do you intend on returning to work after maternity leave?

Hello , thank you again for taking the time.

Yes I do plan to return to work, but part time. He has a degree and PG, but have found out he is planning to go back into education possibly do another PG. He refuses to tell me his plans. Just very sneaky. I have a feeling if I leave this house then he will try to fight me for custody?
Anyway I'm looking into leaving because he constantly shouts at me and yes it's all power games. He doesn't care about CB, but he will do whatever it takes to maintain control.

@VenusJupiter I doubt he'd try for full custody. He'd be bored of looking after a baby after 10 minutes.
Do you have somewhere to go (your mum, friend)?
Get all your important paperwork and baby bits and just go there.

Yes I am planning to go live somewhere else. I don't have passport or BC . All this has been hidden from me. I asked for BC and he refused to give it to me, even though I said I would return it.

What would happen if I found it upon packing and took it with me ?

Nothing. They are your child's birth certificates. If that's going to be difficult you can order copies of the birth certificates.

https://www.gov.uk/order-copy-birth-death-marriage-certificate

Have the children already got passports?

Thanks for replying . I only have one child with him and she is 3 months old. He applied for her passport without me. I never saw the application , just that the passport had arrived. He tells me nothing and does it all behind my back. Luckily 2 weeks ago I got that CB claim in. I don't trust him. He pays the bills ( I don't think the rent is what he makes out), he works non stop, he gives no money ( I have statutory maternity pay which will run out January) . He buys for baby , but so do I and I pay for food too.
He is very stuffy and has to always be in control. Even if I try to kiss him cuddle him he shrugs me off. He shouts at me and corrects my parenting ( I'm not feeding her enough formula and I don't know her needs wth) . Why does he leave her in my care all the time. HV sees she is fine and gaining weight. She interacts and smiles alot with me - I'm her mummy.
He also is constantly on his phone and never talks. Never asks me how I am etc. Twists everything to be my fault then I have to 'earn ' affection . HV referred me to WA and another organisation as I confided in her.
In an ideal world I want us to be together, but know he will never change. Should have realised when he said his ex was a 'psycho'.

*why does he leave her in my care and work non stop?

For example yesterday he was going through all these random women's names, he was then pretending to talk on the phone to another woman. All to get a reaction... I ended up crying because well this is the reality. He twisted it all to be my fault and that I'm insecure .. Also when he is holding our daughter and playing with her he will say things like ' mummy's jealous' .

Why would I be jealous? I love that he interacts with her. Just strange nasty behaviour