Child benefit

[VenusJupiter]

I'm not married to DP, but we live together .. My feeling is he might have claimed child benefit before me. I have already submitted a claim. I'm the one that is obviously on maternity leave. I'm just wondering if HMRC will notice this and the claim will come to me? First child, so no experience of this..

@VenusJupiter when you get those keys tomorrow - just go.
Don't tell your parents your address either.
I can't believe he is making such a big fuss about the child benefit. £20 a week. It will barely cover your baby's nappies.
Get out and good luck.
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You can leave and take the child without his permission. You have parental responsibility. However, if he is on the birth cert and named as the father he can do exactly the same. He can take the child and refuse to return them. The police will say its a civil matter. That's why I suggested applying for a child arrangement order straight away. You can apply for help with the court cost as well I'd you are struggling financially.

No court is going to give him 50:50 of a small baby. That wouldn't be in the best interest of the child. The court will always do what's in the best interest of the child. They are likely to order short but regular visits in the beginning like 2 hours 3 times a week.

I agree with @Needmorelego. Don't tell your parents your new address. They obviously can't be trusted.

Also, I'd get a ring doorbell and install security to your house. I'd also set up the emergency SOS feature on your phone. I'm not meaning to scare you. I just think you need to make sure your safe and have something in place recording so you have evidence if needed.

Have you managed to find or report the passport to the police OP? This is what I'd be most concerned about. He could be planning to take the baby out of the country. It sounds very fishy that he hid it from you.

Yes , I had to really tell my dad not to say anything to my mum. He has played to my mum that I am the problem. He was running to my mum in the beginning making things up. He is truly sick. I confided in the pastor at the church and she said that he lost his way before we met. I just want to be safe with my baby. That's all I pray for .