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mars or Lulu are you here, labour in progress

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liahgen · 14/05/2008 16:15

my lady is 41 wks, in labour as we speak and not making fab progress as far as she thinks.

called 6am this morn, saying had been niggling all night, went from 20 mins to 10 mins, now at 7 mins, Brill, me thinks, text book.

Kept in contact throughout day, her calling me, she's had bath, paracetamol, doing lots moving, . Bath stalled it a bit, went down to 10 mins, 12 mins,
She is now using her tens, it was on 4 this morning, is now on no. 6. Says cx are painful, and can't talk through them. Took tens off for a while to see if it made a difference, lasted one cx!! Yes it is making a difference, she says.

Her husband is there with her, and her young son will be there from 6pm, as will be the person looking after him.

She is feeling like she needs loo constantly but not weeing much, lots pressure.

Have suggested snuggling up with hubby, holding hands during cx and looking silently (him not neccesarily her) into his eyes during cx, as he is asking lots questions during cx, as to how he can help. Though this would kind of reinforce her need to be silent during them, as she as told me she would like.

We are in phone contact, I am half hour away at most. On our last conversation at 3 she said, I want some gas and air. I said, don't leave it till you are desperate to get further pain relief if you think you need some.

Now what, have said call whenever, obviously. Last labour was a stop start 3 day affair with failed epidural. Sooo doesn't want the same again.

Any advice oh wise ones.

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VictorianSqualor · 14/05/2008 16:32

I know what lulu will say.

Sex.

Also keep mobile, keep walking around, the more gravity pushes the baby down the better, but I'm just someone who thrives on labour threads, wait for the real thing by all means

liahgen · 14/05/2008 16:33

hiya,

yeah I know what lulu will say, but just wanted to touch base i think. Have suggested some smooching with hubby but she doesn't fancy it.

lol at your labour threads. x

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Lulumama · 14/05/2008 16:34

if she feels like getting nekkid and being loved up IF her waters are intact that might help, or just being close and cuddling

tell him to SHUT UP (nicely!)

or if she is finding his presence a distraction, she should go and sit astride the loo facing the cistern to get baby descending, by herself

is she homebirth? is baby OP?

Lulumama · 14/05/2008 16:35

leaning over birth ball, with strong massage in the small of her back..when are you going?

NatalieJaneIsPregnantAgain · 14/05/2008 16:37

Oooooh how exciting....

And I am nosy so wanted this thread on my 'thread's I'm on' list!!

liahgen · 14/05/2008 16:38

hiya. [relieved emoticon]

yeah baby slightly op at monday check up. She'd not hb but wants to stay at home as long as poss. Hosp is literally 5 mins away.

Don't wanna intrude and obviously i have done a fab job, [prenes self] and stilling her fears from last time given that i only met them 3 weeks ago, I've worked hard getting to know them, and going over all the last labour and this one too.
What i mean is, is it possible for her to be over confident now and miss her hospital window?

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liahgen · 14/05/2008 16:39

yeah i have her leaning over ball oas opposed to on it, have tried the practiced massage, she didn't like it.

Is it ever ok for me to say, right i'm coming over? I just feel i couled help more if i could see her, iykwim.

thanks, cake for me please, could be a long one. lol

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Lulumama · 14/05/2008 16:40

i think it would be worthwhile to say you can come over and if she does not want people wth her or touching her, you can be near her,. and can keep her DH from irritating her

is anything holding her back> any unresolved issues or fears?

Lulumama · 14/05/2008 16:41

how far apart are ctx and how long they lasting?

NatalieJaneIsPregnantAgain · 14/05/2008 16:41

You'll have to race me to get to the custard doughtnuts I'm afraid LDC is at the ready though

liahgen · 14/05/2008 16:42

7 to 10 mins and lasting almost a minute!!!

I think having her young son is holding her back a bit, he is only 2 and half and gets upset when she gets on all 4's.

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Lulumama · 14/05/2008 16:44

perhaps you could speak to her, say you will go over, it will take you a bit to get there, and when you arrive , can encourage Dad to sort out the toddler. what is the plan for him when they go to hospitl?

largeginandtonic · 14/05/2008 16:45

Oh the excitement!

Lulumama · 14/05/2008 16:46

hi largegin! and NJ, tis like the good old days

NatalieJaneIsPregnantAgain · 14/05/2008 16:49

LOL You loved it, I only did it for you..... LOL

liahgen · 14/05/2008 16:50

there was a plan for him to go to someones house but seems she is going to stay there with him now.

right, just had her on phone. suggested the loo position. Am aiming to get to her for half 6.
ctx's def lasting a min, and painful.

ooh

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liahgen · 14/05/2008 16:51

hey lg&T, is your lo one now, Little Annie turned one last week. Any sign of no. 7 yet.

we ttc no. 6!!

sorry, i distract easily.

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Lulumama · 14/05/2008 16:51

ok

half 6 is a long time and anything could happen !!

if she is finding her son is stopping her from adpoting the positions she needs to it might be better for you to go earlier and make this a bit more 'real' ? IFYSWIM

keep us posted if you can

NJ, it was jolly good fun and brought us brief fame/ notoriety!

LadyOfTheCauliFlowers · 14/05/2008 16:52

If she feels she needs g&a now, she needs it, otherwise she may lose control and let it get the better of her.

liahgen · 14/05/2008 16:52

she sounded distracted this time on the phone so i'm sure all is progressing nicely. I did tell her to look at the intensity and length of ctx as opposed to how far apart aswell

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Lulumama · 14/05/2008 16:53

but if she can have a coherent conversation then she is not at the losing control stage ! i would be tempted to go sooner rather than later.. just to be there. but that is me !

is that oyu ladyoftheflowers?

Lulumama · 14/05/2008 16:53

x post..

then definitely think about getting there sooner rather than later !

liahgen · 14/05/2008 16:54

yeah, I think i will get my lo's dropped off at mates and head off.
could just say, was unsure how long would take this time of night.

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Lulumama · 14/05/2008 16:55

good stuff!

will await an update

happy doulaing / birthing !

NatalieJaneIsPregnantAgain · 14/05/2008 16:55

If it was me in labour, I'd want you there....

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