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Why is everyone so anti elective c-section?

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Gangle · 26/08/2007 23:54

I'm only 7 weeks pregnant but am sure I want an elective c-section. I've read extensively around the subject and think I'm well informed on the pros and cons of elective c-section v VBAC but it seems there is so much stigma attached to elective c-sections and that people will do/say anything to attempt to dissuade you from having one. Just wondering why there isn't more respect for your wishes about how you want to give birth.

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lulumama · 28/08/2007 20:17

and epidural is contraindicated for VBAC due to possibility of masking scar pain...

whomovedmychocolate · 28/08/2007 20:22

Lulumama - well my SiL had one and they told her it was 'standard practice'.

It's moot in my case, I'm physically unable to do it. But with my local hospital, if you want to birth your own way, you do it on your own carpets! (ie at home)

FioFio · 28/08/2007 20:24

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kittywits · 28/08/2007 20:27

, how about you grow your babies in a giant petri dish in the corner of the living room, that way you can dispense with the prgnancy as well

eleusis · 28/08/2007 20:27

Oh Lulu and I thought you had closed that door.... I am stepping away....

whomovedmychocolate · 28/08/2007 20:31

kittywits - because the cat would eat the baby obviously

jabberwocky · 28/08/2007 20:33

at kittywits

lulumama · 28/08/2007 20:33

am right behind you ...

kittywits · 28/08/2007 20:41

If you put a cat guard round it it would be ok, watered it a couple of times a week.
Just think you could carry on as normal without any of the tedious inconveniences of pregnancy and childbirth.

whomovedmychocolate · 28/08/2007 20:44

Very true - you could even get one of those automatic feeder things, then you could leave home for longer stretches. Providing you left the TV on so the LO got used to the sound of human voices

Oh dear, I think everyone else has left.

eleusis · 28/08/2007 20:52

I like Kitty's idea. Do you think we could get these dishes on the NHS?

whomovedmychocolate · 28/08/2007 20:53

...and you could take a cutting if you wanted identical twins!

WideWebWitch · 28/08/2007 20:54

Gangle, I'd be very interested to hear if you go for a section or vb
do come back and tell us!

eleusis · 28/08/2007 20:54

Oh fab. I always wanted identical twins.

loopyredangel · 28/08/2007 21:43

whomovedmychocolate, what was the problem with your pelvis?

whomovedmychocolate · 28/08/2007 21:50

Oh it's mishaped and the bone is in the wrong place for my cervix to open properly apparently. Also my cervix is in an 'unusual place' so the baby would basically need a roadmap and a small hammer to find a way out.

loopyredangel · 28/08/2007 21:53

This sounds odd, but how did you find out, its just I have big problems with my pelvis, DS would not come out because my cervix wouldn't open properly, ave since had an xray to show lots of damage to my pelvis, and wondered if it was related.

sazzybee · 28/08/2007 21:58

I was told during my cs that I have a heart-shaped uterus. I'm not entirely sure what to do with that piece of information. I wonder if it would be appealing in a personal ad?

expatinscotland · 28/08/2007 21:59

My sister had a successful VBAC in the US and she had an epidural.

whomovedmychocolate · 28/08/2007 22:01

Ooh quite possibly!

They discovered this when I had the CS actually. They had to check the baby hadn't descended so while I was on the operating table they tried to do an internal and couldn't find my cervix. The MWs and the consultants had been unable to earlier and thought it was a bit odd.

So when they were inside having a looksee after ejecting DD they saw where my uterus was and where my cervix was and made copious notes. I only know because I went through my birth notes later (I was a tad upset not to have delivered vaginally) and they were querying a major trauma to the pelvis earlier in life (normally ski/horse injuries). But no, it's just me, I have a weird pelvis.

If you've had an accident and previously damaged your pelvis though it's worth getting an xray before pregnancy to assess how well it's fitting back together.

loopyredangel · 28/08/2007 22:16

apparantely the xray showed major changes to my pelvis, funny when I was having my internals the midwife asked if I had ever had an operation, to which I replied no, because she could feel alot of damage!

macneil · 28/08/2007 22:16

I had my c-s because of hip-related problems, but my obstetrician made a point of telling me my pelvis had caused him no end of trouble as well. This seemed particularly rude when he wasn't taking her out through it. But I guess this double rules out a vaginal birth for me. I have had a big knock to my pelvis but I always thought it was perfectly normal.

whomovedmychocolate · 28/08/2007 22:18

Well aside from falling off climbing frames as a kid I've never knowingly bashed mine, it's just made funny. Bit like me I guess, slightly odd.

loopyredangel · 28/08/2007 22:20

so who made the decision for you to have a csection next time. Just I have had to change consultants because of lack of support, my pain clinic consultant told me before I got pregnant again that I would have to have acsection. My first was delivered by emergency cs because my cervix would not open past 5cm! But my prat of an obstetrician who hasn't seen me since and witness the damage that has been caused seemed to think I would be fine having a normal delivery!!!!! But they are still claiming that I am choosing to have a csection when I have been told I must have a csection.

whomovedmychocolate · 28/08/2007 22:26

But if you have had one, you are allowed to ask for one. What the blinking flip is he going on about?!

You sound like you've done the sensible thing moving to a diff. consultant. Mind said: 'well you have the right to try a VBAC if you like. It probably won't work but we have to give you the choice.'

So absolute opposite response. Ah don't worry, he will probably be off torturing kittens by the next time you are pregnant!