Stitch came out now I feel ruined

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Have to be brief cos got restless newb on me. Gave birth 2nd April, needed I believe 3 stitches. Baby needed to stay in 3 days as Cleft Lip n palate and I became unwell due to birth n had catheter very very weak etc so spent lot of time on bed having to carefully slide bum across bed to get/put down baby. Was worried how would affect stitches.

Realised few days later top stitch nearest v opening had come loose, now completely out. Seems to have healed fine BUT now am left with a much larger opening ! I can see the opening!

Have been rly feeling upset about it cos I so want to have sex with husband again I miss that intimacy but now I don't want to because of this. Dreading it. It won't feel good for him with an opening like that!

Pls what can I do? I'm so gutted. I did tell the mws about the stitch coming loose n out but they just said it will heal it's fine (it did heal) but now I am left with a giant opening!!! :( seriously has anyone else had this happen? And can I get it fixed?

I should prob clarify that when I say it's healed I mean it isn't sore or bleeding any more but due to the stitch coming out and larger opening it seems the two sides that stitch was meant to pull together healed separately. I really can't imagine ever letting my husband see me there again let alone doing it. I want to ramp up my pelvic floor exercises but now I keep thinking that's all well n good but with an opening I can fully see it will never feel the same.

Try to be calm. Wait till you are ready and then try having sex. It might feel ok despite looking different than it did.