If you had an assisted delivery first time around, what were your subsequent births like?

[MeadowHay]

I had a 30hr labour with DD and only about 4hrs sleep before I woke up with the early labour pains and then couldn't sleep anymore. I ended up having a ventouse delivery with an epi. I know subsequent labours are shorter and you're less likely to have an assisted delivery in subsequent births, however only two people that I know of in my family have had any at all, and one of them is adamant they will have no more children as they're so traumatised by their birth (forceps) - the other had a ventouse delivery, and then a forceps the second time!

I had an epidural with DC1 which led to a forceps delivery because I couldn't feel to push.

I didn't need any intervention or pain relief stronger than gas & air with the next two.

I had a crappy first labour and am worried about what happens this time round. What I would say is don’t get fixated on having your dr there for the debrief. That isn’t that usual and it’s unlikely they’d remember you anyway. It will still be helpful to go through it with an independent midwife. The purpose is to go through the notes and understand what happened. I found it really helpful and there were things that I had misremembered or didn’t realise.