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Advice needed on Syntometrine injection and refusing it, pleeeeeeeeease!

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EllieKthePA · 06/04/2007 00:11

Hi
I had the injection after giving birth to ds, it made me very sick and i then had to have further medication to stop the sickness. Unfortunately the anti-sickness medication makes my Narcolepsy (sleep disorder) worse and following it I slept for over 12 hours, meaning ds didn't feed for almost 18 hours after birth. This wasn't too much of a problem, he took to bf absolutely fine and we had no bonding issues.
I am due on Monday and now very worried that the injection could cause the same sickness again. I really do not want to have another child and not remember much of the first day of their life.
As I know it didn't cause huge problems with ds, if i need to i'll have the injection, but if i can avoid it I would like to.
If I refuse the injection, how dangerous is this? What else can I do to lessen the chances of a heavy bleed (my mw tells me this is why i should have it so want to go armed with alternatives)?

HELP!

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Klaw · 06/04/2007 14:27

There's the Doula Hardship Fund , ASK, if you don't ask you don't get.

Also, if a Doula would not consider helping you for free in your circumstances then she aint a Doula, imho!

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EllieKthePA · 06/04/2007 14:27

i'm due on monday Lulu

i did look into it a while ago but there weren't many in my area and i'm not really one to ask for help , or not to people i'd actually have to see, that's what's so good about MN

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Klaw · 06/04/2007 14:27

Snap Lulu!

lulumama · 06/04/2007 14:28

oh ellie, email those doulas or i will drive down to bath just to slap you ! ok!!

you never know ! people WANT to help, don;t know any doulas who are in this just for the money !

lulumama · 06/04/2007 14:28

klaw..i insist you move to near me, so we can work together, we would be such a good team! !

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EllieKthePA · 06/04/2007 14:31

you wouldn't find me in bath Lulu, that's Octo

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EllieKthePA · 06/04/2007 14:32

ok, i'll email them, but what do I say?
shall i just ask that they contact me and then explain more when they do?

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lulumama · 06/04/2007 14:32

lolololol!!!! ooops ! am a bit doolally today !! well, to suffolk then

doulallydoula ! snooooooooooooort

bet you are laughing though !

lulumama · 06/04/2007 14:33

tell them you are a single mum, due on monday, no-one to support you but for a friend who has not had kids, be upfront and tell them what you have told us !!

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EllieKthePA · 06/04/2007 14:34

was actually just thinking how sad it is that i spend enough time on here to know Octo lives in bath without even thinking about it

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lulumama · 06/04/2007 14:35

och, don;t worry ! it is an online community ! that is the beauty of it ! now go and send some emails and report back !

Klaw · 06/04/2007 14:36

Lulu, wouldn't we just! I'd hav eto insist tho that you move here to beautiful sunny Scotland (I'm near the east coast so a lot less rain!)

And Ellie, I'll slap you too, if you don't get on the case and contact some Doulas NOW!!!!

You absolutely need support for this birth, it is scientifically researched and proven that you must not be alone.

Being a Doula is a way of life not an income. Of all the Doulas I've met I don't think there's one that wouldn't be jumping up and down in horror at your predicament, just like Lulu and I are, so get dialling! It's the weekend, don't use email.

Plus you've got up to another two weeks before labour starts so plenty of time!

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EllieKthePA · 06/04/2007 14:39

Ok, so something like this ......

Hi
I am a single mum due with my 2nd child on Monday. At the moment I will be giving birth with just the support of a friend who has no children. I felt pushed into an epidural last time and would like to avoid it this time but don't feel confident that I/my friend will be strong enough to argue against it. I have been advised by some lovely ladies on Mumsnet that there is a Doula Hardship fund and you might be willing to help me although I do not have the funds to pay for a Doula?

Please let me know whether you feel you would be able to help me.

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EllieKthePA · 06/04/2007 14:40

there is no way i can phone them, that just isn't happening, emailing them is bad enough

and i know i have ages yet, not expecting any signs of arrival for at least another week yet.

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Klaw · 06/04/2007 14:43

I'll call them.

seriously!!!!!

Lulu and I can take a few each.....

Klaw · 06/04/2007 14:44

but get sending the emails already! to as many as possible!!!

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EllieKthePA · 06/04/2007 14:46

is what i put in the post below ok for the email? there's only 2 that are anywhere close to me.

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Klaw · 06/04/2007 14:49

Only two within an hours drive?

I think so, you could also ask if they could put you in contact with anyoen else they think could help if they can't....

lulumama · 06/04/2007 14:52

what klaw said..and what you have written is fine ! jsut get mailing ! at least if nothing can get sorted you know that you have tried !

if you feel you would like some help with a birth plan, let me know, something like

NO EPIDURAL AND DO NOT OFFER PAIN RELIEF, I WIL L ASK FOR IT !! in big red letters, underlined !

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EllieKthePA · 06/04/2007 14:52

there's 2 that are local to my hospital, there are other that could get here but are they likely to want to travel for that long if they're not getting paid?

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EllieKthePA · 06/04/2007 14:55

birth plan doesn't help lulu but thanks for the offer x

i'll ask for the epidural cos i won't be confident enough to think i can do it without, was informed last night at antenatal (by a team mw who examined me 2 weeks ago but had no idea who i was) that most 'normal' women get to 4cm before needing pain relief, i was on g&a before i got to 2cm

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lulumama · 06/04/2007 14:55

don;t you worry about that, you just get mailing !

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EllieKthePA · 06/04/2007 14:58

i've sent an email to the 2 that are local. Becky Drayton and Cathy Donlevy.

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Klaw · 06/04/2007 14:58

If you don't ask you don't get!

Also the hardship fund should help and then you can pay in installments for the amount you are due. Something can be worked out, but you must ASK!!

Klaw · 06/04/2007 14:59

OH FFS!!!! That mw needs shot!