In for induction.. not going great. Need a hand hold

[Babybeesmama]

39+1 with DC 3.. other 2 labours were natural & very quick.

Issues with growth this time & waters also low.. so advised to go for induction.

Came in yesterday & had pessary.. a few hours later contractions got going.. thought it was all going to happen.. then all stopped. Got a bit of sleep but am in a bay so it's noisy.

This morning they've said the pessary can come out at 1130 & they'll examine me.. if they can break waters I'll have to wait for a slot on labour ward.. if not I'll have to repeat the process with another pessary.. not sure how I feel about this. I'm finding the pessary very uncomfortable.. my nether regions are swollen too 😰. I feel really teary this morning, especially with the thought of 2 other children at home. I knew it could be a long process.. I'm just finding it hard.

My consultant said last week they wouldn't let things go past Wednesday.. so I'd have c-section if nothing progressed by then.. so I suppose I have that to hang onto. Starting to wish I'd opted for section in first place now as I was told I was able to request one on grounds I had 3rd degree tear last time.

I feel like a dramatic princess wanting to cry 😭

I have nothing to add and no advice really just here to hand hold and say you're doing extremely well given what you've already gone through and still going through.
My first birth was in a hospital in the south of England where most of the staff were overseas contractors and they didn't care what I said or thought and I couldn't understand most of what they were saying. I feel like although you are all speaking the same language with your care givers seems they are still not super communicative so I can totally understand your frustration and why you're so upset. I would be too.

I would personally go for all the drugs OP! You deserve them by now. Any sign?

No updates nothing.. I was ok this morning but going a bit batshit crazy now. I'm seriously considering discharging myself.. if they were that bothered about the fluid level they'd wouldn't of left me 15 hours... they've only been in once today. Feel like the only way I'll get anywhere near labour ward is if my baby is in immediate risk or I actually go into labour.

Ask to speak to head of midwives
Tell them this - request CS if you want it
Good luck

Have you asked about other hospitals? I changed hospital halfway through my induction because they halted it after one pessery due to lack of staff and then lack of room the one doctor said he would give me a section of I wanted one as there was plenty of room on post natel just none on pre I refused and changed hospitals

That sounds crap op. If i were you i think id push for the cs.

I've been out to them.. took all my courage as I was crying .. midwife said oh no movement for at least next few hours as we've sent 3 ladies in labour down. I started crying & I said my consultant told me they wouldn't let me go past Wednesday & she said I'll mention that & I'll come & see you in your room.. that was 40 mins ago... & they are probably handing over now!
I've literally cried for 2 hours now. I am starting to think packing up & telling them I'm discharging myself is the only way.

My goodness you poor thing! How long have you been in there now?

Yes they're probably handing over. If dh is there can he pop out at 8ish to chivvy them along, ask them what their plan for your care is?

You poor thing, hope you get seen soon and that baby gets moving one way or the other!

Agree with alittlepotoget DH to go and try and chivvy.

Oh gosh, you poor thing. I was in for induction at 40 weeks (I'm 41, it's what they do round here), first dc. I went in on the Tuesday, pessary in. Nothing happened. Second pessary in Thursday. Waters broke on Friday, no contractions, not dilated. Onto the drip on Saturday, didn't progress at all so emcs early hours of Sunday morning.
Next time I will go straight for the c section.
All worth it to meet our wonderful dd, but very stressful at the time.
Keep asking, keep yourself on their radar and do whatever is best for you.
Hope you get to meet your little one very soon.

Since Monday morning. DH is with kids at home but coming back shortly.

I honestly feel like I am going mental. This system for inducing routine cases just doesn't work.. there's obviously just too many emergencies.

My SIL was in a different hospital on same day for induction.. she had to ring labour ward at 7am.. they had a room, she went in had pessary, waters broken once it had been in 24 hours, hormone drip, had a baby & is home. That system seems a million times better to me.

What a long drag its been for you x i feel for you ..like you my 1st 2 were natural then 3rd had to be induced - pessary made feel awful & threw up everywhere ..keep asking for section ..and hope you meet your lo soon x

DH on his way. No ones been in still. 😢

Oh gosh Babybees this sounds so so awful and uncomfortable :(

You've been there such a long time now, surely they have to take your wellbeing into account??? Any chance when DH gets there he can go and explain that you're not coping anymore and they either need to move onto the next stage of induction (drip?) or get you in for a c section. So sorry you're going through this

That sounds awful - I'm so sorry you're going through this.

Second the poster who suggested asking to see the head of midwives. Also, does your consultant do morning ward rounds? If so, and you feel you can hang on until the morning, tell them when they arrive that you are now withdrawing your consent for the induction and any further internal examinations - hopefully this will prompt a review and CS. Do you know which other hospitals are available if you decide to discharge yourself?

If they have started induction can they really do this to you?

It seems dreadfully cruel and unprofessional to start something so critical as an induction then seemingly just abandon it.

I second pp's advice re refusing to consent to anymore examinations unless there is a clear plan of action committed to and consented to on your part whether that be a drip induction or a c section.

I really feel for you and so hope the morning brings better developments. Or you go into labour tonight, and take any more chances for procrastination out of their hands.

Even if there is space on the labour ward tonight, induction at night is known to have poor maternal satisfaction (women are tired already, more chance of instrumental birth or other intervention which increases chance of tear/PPH) - I found the research when pregnant with DS a few years ago.

In your shoes, I'd discharge myself and go home to see your DC and have a decent sleep in your own bed before returning tomorrow. I'm of your thinking, if they were that worried then they would put you in as an emergency and get baby ouT ASAP, not leave you to it for 15 hours.

Can your DH speak to someone when he arrives for you? Say you've had enough, you've been abandoned and you are worried for the health of the baby seeing as consultant wanted baby out by today.
Then tell them what you'd like be that a section or otherwise. Ask about going home for a night and returning tomorrow?

Oh love. This is the problem with side rooms - out of sight, out of mind. Can you go to the desk again? Even if you just stand there and cry?

Thank you for all the replies 💗. DH came back & kicked off as I was in such a state.

Midwife said basically this is the NHS! She rang labour ward co-ordinator & they said chances of me going tonight very low so midwife said after I'd seen dr if they agreed I could go home tonight... shock tho.. she bleeped them & no one came! She did ctg & spoke to a doctor & they agreed I could come home!

Labour ward could call me anytime with a slot.. but for now I just have to go back tomorrow! I'm on my own sofa & can't wait to have breakfast with my DC's... although they may have a lot of questions about why I've come home with no baby 🙈 xx so tomo is CTG & review with my consultant... we are going to be firm about what the plan is.

Aw you're having such a rough time of it, you poor thing! Read the whole thread and I'm wincing for you. Well done for being strong in demanding to be seen. Hope you have a nice peaceful drama free night and have lots of hugs with dds in terms morning and please God baby will be with you soon without further delay!

Oh goodness, this brings back memories of my time on the antenatal ward. I was there a fortnight and I remember when I arrived that there was one poor lady who had been waiting 9 days for her "urgent" induction. She was beside herself. She did get it on day 11! No one else got up to quite such high numbers of days.

So pleased that they've sent you home at night, another couple insisted on that. I think in the end she went into labour naturally on day 3 or 4.

I do remember another lady having been moved from her local hospital due to complications with her child and been told she needed to have the child by x date keep getting bumped from the induction list. She kept getting very angry. But I saw her in postnatal and all was well with her little girl.

(I wasn't waiting for an induction, I had other complications, but I was also beside myself missing DS1 who was at home). Try to do what you need to do to keep comfortable and sane, try not to worry about the "not past Wednesday" thing as they've been keeping a close eye on you.

My DH and DS came in for tea every day and we all went down to the food hall and ate M&S sandwiches. If you have to stay in again would it be possible for your DC to do something like that? I actually have quite fond memories of those teas now.

Much love and good luck!

at "this is the nhs"! Why does that mean you should accept shoddy care! Being left for hours with nobody so much as checking on you! Hopefully you will now get the care and birth you deserve