In for induction.. not going great. Need a hand hold

[Babybeesmama]

39+1 with DC 3.. other 2 labours were natural & very quick.

Issues with growth this time & waters also low.. so advised to go for induction.

Came in yesterday & had pessary.. a few hours later contractions got going.. thought it was all going to happen.. then all stopped. Got a bit of sleep but am in a bay so it's noisy.

This morning they've said the pessary can come out at 1130 & they'll examine me.. if they can break waters I'll have to wait for a slot on labour ward.. if not I'll have to repeat the process with another pessary.. not sure how I feel about this. I'm finding the pessary very uncomfortable.. my nether regions are swollen too 😰. I feel really teary this morning, especially with the thought of 2 other children at home. I knew it could be a long process.. I'm just finding it hard.

My consultant said last week they wouldn't let things go past Wednesday.. so I'd have c-section if nothing progressed by then.. so I suppose I have that to hang onto. Starting to wish I'd opted for section in first place now as I was told I was able to request one on grounds I had 3rd degree tear last time.

I feel like a dramatic princess wanting to cry 😭

You do know you can refuse the second pessary and go straight for a section? Do whatever makes you feel most comfortable.

What Welsh said.
Let them know how you're feeling and ask for the section if that's what you feel most comfortable with.

What they said! And cry if you want to bbmamma! Good luck. And remember you're going to meet your beautiful new baby very soon!

Go for the section if you would rather do that. They can't make you have the second pessary or let them break your waters.

Thank you all 💗. I've struggled with PND twice & im so conscious of staying on top of my mental health this time... & I feel like this really isn't doing me any good mentally at the moment. X

I wouldn't want to run the risk of tears again especially if that contributed to your previous pnd. A c section recovery can be hard but recovery from any birth is lonely to involve some hardship. A few weeks on from my emcs and i barely knew id had one. You might need to be quite pushy if that's what you want. They'll probably try and talk you out of it.

Honestly would say stop and have a section if that is your preferred option.

Hmmm induction going slowly, bigger chance of epidural due to pain needs and thus again an increase in chance of 3/4th degree tear versus a section you feel OK about. You consent to whatever happens - that means you get to chose what suits you best x

Go for the section, I had emcs 15 months ago, first baby, as pp said a few weeks on from it I barely knew I'd had one and I'll be requesting one the next time. Don't put yourself through any more, I hope all goes well and you're holding your lovely baby soon

How are you doing BBsMamma?

Had 2 internals, both of which were excruciatingly painful, my entire lady area is swollen & killing. They said another pessary may get me to a point where they could break my waters.. but I've said no. Midwife said dr may want to examine me.. but I feel I'm going to refuse. I've been sobbing for last 2 hours..feel like a right idiot.

So I have to wait for dr & if they agree I'll go on the list for c-section, no idea when it will be but mentally & physically don't think I can take any more. Wish I could stop crying! 😢x DH being very supportive but keep thinking of my 2 lovely DC's at home.. I just want to get back to them now x

You don't have to consent for anyone else to examine you. Get DH asking when you can have your section - ask to see the doctor and be clear you know what you want.

If you dont want to be examined then refuse consent and say you want an ELCS. They can't do anything you haven't consented to. If you dont feel able to then get dh to do the talking on your behalf.

As others have said just refuse consent to be reexamined if they have been that painful. It's well within your rights.

I'm sorry to read how anxious and upset you are. It's very hard to deal with this sort of thing when you're feeling very vulnerable and are pining for your other children. I know.

Stick to your guns. Can your DH help advocate your case as such? Sure he would.

Good luck. I know it sounds trite but it will be at an end fairly soon one way or another you'll get your beautiful baby.

Keep us posted and sending you lots of positive vibes

They are reviewing me after my ultrasound at 440pm... DH has said no internals after how upset I got this morning. I'm still in pain so wouldnt feel comfortable going home. I asked the midwife about chances of getting c section in next 24 hours & she was extremely vague... I totally understand that there will be emergencies & higher priority patients than me (I work in a hospital myself so understand & prob explains why I'm reluctant to moan at them as I know what pressures they are under).. but having no idea when something is going to happen is like mental torture...
I think after the ultrasound we'll be a bit more forceful about knowing what's happening. I look like shite.. & feel like shite 😩

Aww I'm sorry you are having such a rough time. But as other posters have said you are within your rights to refuse something you aren't comfortable with.

As you've said after your scan they may have some more insight in to what they can do. I have everything crossed for you.

Do you have your DH around to help advocate for you? I sometimes feel midwives and medics can be dismissive of decisions women make when they are pregnant as it is impossible for us to detach and we are inevitably emotional when making massive decisions like this! (Am currently pregnant with #4 and have worked as a junior doc so have seen things from both sides). It is also very easy to be railroaded into going along with whatever protocols are in place where you are, but stand firm if you really don't want to go down the route of ramping up induction methods! Get your DH on side to help articulate your decisions clearly and hopefully without becoming upset. Although it shouldn't make a difference to how you are treated, it really can help to have someone else to help back you up.

I hope your scan goes well and you get the delivery you want.

Really feel for you OP. Induction is not fun. Hope you've been given your Csec or at least had it scheduled by now. Good luck 🦄

I'm keeping everything crossed for you. I completely sympathise with how painful your birth canal can be during induction. My little one was born on the Sunday morning after the first pessary being put in on the Thursday night. I was exhausted and in agony.
Good luck for a beautiful healthy baby op

Hope you're ok op

Hope you're ok and things are improving OP

I was where you are - painful, no progress, unwanted internal. It took me until day 6 to say 'no' but it was the best thing I could've done. Failure of induction was the reason for CS - it was a lovely birth once we got to theatre.

Thinking of you and sending lots of love. It won't be long till you are holding your beautiful baby in your arms! X

Well I still have no baby 🙈. I waited from lunchtime yesterday to be examined by a doctor & never got to see one.

I sent DH home to see the kids at 6pm because I'm missing them & I had a moment on the ward of wanting to throw myself out the window - the neighbouring lady had her husband visit who bought really smelly food then proceeded to fart continually & was bragging on the phone to his mate that he was farting in his wife's face.. I honestly was ready to say that's it I'm going home. Then thankfully the night midwife came in & said 'shall we get you in your own room so DH can stay?' I was so happy!!

I had a long chat with her & because no doctors in sight i agreed to her examining me with g&a.. it was still excruciating but she thinks a consultant will be able to break my waters.. so I'm now on a list for labour ward.. but they've no idea when that will be... but I'm praying today. I think I just had come to the point where I needed to be one some list.. & with no dr I wouldn't of gotten on a c-sect list. I feel like I've received poor care in some respects. Will decide whether to do something about it at a later date.

My poor fanny looks like a giant sea sponge (sorry if TMI). I think I'll be going for all the drugs possible today... which will be strange after 2 very quick natural deliveries.

Miss my 2 kids like mad... I never really spend anytime apart from them so it's tough.. i can't look at pictures of them without crying 🙈 x I do feel much better after having some sleep tho.

Can't thank you all enough for taking the time to reply 💗 xx

@Babybeesmama oh no, was hoping you'd update with a babybee arrival!

Ugh that man sounds gross. What a filthy scrote.

You hang on in there, it won't be long now.
Take the drugs and keep your eye on the prize. You can do this. You'll be home with all your three babies before you know it.

Keep us posted and sending hugs 💪🏻

I'm thinking of you and really hoping it won't be long now. I had a hospital induction (because of excruciating gallbladder pain they thought was indigestion?!?) previously I had two natural home births so I totally understand how different and traumatic it can feel to suddenly be in hospital with all the crap that goes with it!! Thank goodness you now have your own room., they gave me one too! Maybe we don't look like we can cope on the ward!!! Don't worry about your other little ones...they are being well cared for at home and literally won't remember you've been away. Just stay calm and try and listen to music or get a relaxing app on your phone?!? Try "expectful". I swear by it!! You get a free trial. It's for mothers and pregnancy etc. We are all here for you and totally understand how you feel. Ps. Don't look at the sea sponge right now!!! Not sure it will help!! It's all temporary anyway. Much love xxx

Aww op!!! Brstif luck to you and your poor old sea sponge