Sex 9 days after baby!!?

[user1468244773]

Oh Iv done something stupid. C section 9 days ago, bleeding almost stopped. Had sex today and felt fine apart from I started bleeding extremely heavy during and after. So much so it was all over the bed 😩.

It's calmed down now but still bright red.

I feel like a fecking idiot. 😪😪

[AdultingIsNotWhatIExpected]

At 8weeks Post CS I thought I was good to go because the entrance area was unaffected. I was really swollen inside and could feel it doing damage so we stopped. It took a LONG time to heal inside from the CS and for sex to feel safe

I had a vaginal birth before that and sex was much easier to get back to after that, the vaginal birth really only affected the entrance, the CS affected everything inside.

[Idliketobeabutterfly]

Yikes. I'd get checked out. Tbh I'd also see if there was something to slip in your partners tea until you are a little more recovered.

[PortiaCastis]

Bromide would suffice or is that banned?

[user1468244773]

I think hormones just took over both of us tbh. I feel okay, I'm going to get midwife to check me over tomorrow

[MachiKoro]

We weren't told to abstain, but rather to go for it when we felt.like it. It was intimated we were expected to have had a try before the six week check, so they can solve any issues.
I didn't think of infection! Don't think we had used condom, think I still had lochia. Was day ten after csection.

[PollyPerky]

Bugger something to slip in his tea.
I'd have gone for him with the garden shears if he'd come anywhere near me so soon.

Men, eh? And luuuurve.

[FerdinandsMassiveBollocks]

.. but somehow because a CS doesn't cut the actual vagina (just massively traumatises the lower abdomen in general), CS mums are fair game to be hit on for sex? hmm, I don't understand it.

That^ Big time. Not on at all. You're a hormonal wreck but he should be looking after you and not trying it on. Even if dh was begging I wouldn't let him risk his himself after surgery so we could have sex. That's how your partner should feel.

Unlikely to be ovulating if you are breast feeding and only 9 days after having a baby and a csec though.

[FerdinandsMassiveBollocks]

(and before anyone jumps on me because they knew a woman who had a baby 6 weeks after they had the last baby or whatever, I realise there are exceptions but very unlikely.)

[AdultingIsNotWhatIExpected]

Unlikely to be ovulating if you are breast feeding and only 9 days after having a baby and a csec though.

Unlikely but not impossible, there's plenty of sibs about who were born the same year!

[MachiKoro]

C'mon- how on earth could she ovulate nine days after birth? MAP? Honestly?

[Fomalhaut]

Bromide would suffice or is that banned?

Yes. But anyone who tried it on with me less than a fortnight after a c section would have far worse than that in their tea.
Nitrogen mustard for example ...

[PortiaCastis]

I had vaginal birth but my froo froo wasn't fit for fornicating after 9 days

[SilverHawk]

Why on earth do you need the MAP? Surely the lochia would stop any pregnancy regardless of ovulating

[DorotheaHomeAlone]

People going a bit overboard here. I wasn't given any advice to abstain after my c sections. We had sex at around 3 weeks when my abdomen was feeling better and lochia had stopped. If you're feeling ok it was almost certainly lochia. Incredibly unlikely to conceive. Just wait a bit before going again and use contraception.

I also felt very loved up and affectionate seeing DH as a dad and the way we'd pulled together as new parents so I get why this happened. Just be more careful with contraception next time!

[user1468244773]

DorotheaHomeAlone Thank you! That's exactly how we both feel. I can't believe the amount of love I have for this man, it makes me cry!

Bleeding has completely stopped now. I feel fine, bit sore but that's because I'm overdue paracetamol.

[FerdinandsMassiveBollocks]

Of course you feel loved up, you're supposed to feel that way. It's all natural highs.

But a partner should be loved up and looking after your best interests

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[mummytofourbabys]

Op I'm totally with u I had sex on day 7 after my c section and had heavy bleeding after same as u. I called midwife to check and she said it was fine. Only to worry if I started passing large clots.

It happens and sometimes you get carried away in the moment. I wasn't warned by any midwife or doctor not to have sex so soon, I felt ready and so did my partner so it just happened.

[OrchidsAndLace]

If DH ever turned down sex "for my own good" because he thought I wasn't well enough, he'd get a right earful for being such a patronising git and no sex for weeks after. Caring for your partner doesn't mean treating them like a child

OP, I'm surprised either of you were in the mood tbh but sounds like you were both just feeling all loved up in the baby aftermath and from other replies you're obviously not alone! If you're concerned then check with midwife or HV but if bleeding has stopped and you feel ok it was probably just lochia as pp said. Technically you can take the MAP while breastfeeding but it can reduce your milk supply for a few days. However, I really, really doubt you need it! Seriously.

[SirVixofVixHall]

I was also told to wait 8 weeks before sex. I waited at least 6 months. I love my lovely husband but having something poking away at my stitched up uterus? Er. NO. I only had my stitches out on day 6, the thought of sex 3 days later is making me wince!! Anyway, i agree it is highly unlikely you could get pregnant, but a c-section isn't like a vaginal birth, you need to give everything time to heal before another pregnancy or you put the pregnancy at risk, you increase your risk of uterine rupture if you haven't healed well from the section. I was told to wait at least 12 months, and if possible 18, before getting pregnant again. And I was in my 40s, so they knew I needed to get on with it!

[VoldysGoneMouldy]

That's really bloody stupid to be blunt, and incredibly irresponsible of your husband. He jumped on you, NINE DAYS after major surgery? That's completely lacking in respect for your well being. Call the midwife as soon as possible.

[NoMudNoLotus]

You're both crackers.

[BertrandRussell]

"If DH ever turned down sex "for my own good" because he thought I wasn't well enough, he'd get a right earful for being such a patronising git" So might mine. But he would still be right if I was 9 days post C section, bleeding and already on antibiotics. Because that's what a grown up responsible person would do. Even if I was ranting at him in a irrational manner. Because people who love each other take care of each other and don't collude in doing potentially dangerous things.

[Onenerfwarfrombreakdown]

You need to get checked out. You've had a major abdominal procedure with layers of stitching so you need to be checked it's not internal bleeding (as well as obv lochia). I would not delay. I hope all is well and I definitely would not risk it again for a few more weeks until internal healing has progressed.

[LyndaNotLinda]

Haven't you still got your stitches in?

[callmeadoctor]

Why would you risk it?