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Sex 9 days after baby!!?

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user1468244773 · 30/07/2016 17:10

Oh Iv done something stupid. C section 9 days ago, bleeding almost stopped. Had sex today and felt fine apart from I started bleeding extremely heavy during and after. So much so it was all over the bed 😩.

It's calmed down now but still bright red.

I feel like a fecking idiot. 😪😪

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PollyPerky · 30/07/2016 18:07

You need to run this by someone- health visitor, out of hours dr, someone!
Bleeding is not a good sign. Don't you get what may have occurred? Your womb has been cut as well as layers of tissues around it. It's all healing and will take weeks to be strong again. Having sex where some bloke is thrusting against it all is not going to help it heal. For goodness sake, talk to a medical professional today regardless of whether you are not bleeding now- it may start again.

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user1468244773 · 30/07/2016 18:09

Bleeding has now stopped!? Wtf

will ring midwife x

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PollyPerky · 30/07/2016 18:13

Is this your first baby?

The lochia can last for 2-4 weeks. You need someone to find out if the bleeding was lochia from your womb, and all the poking has just set it off again, or bleeding from the CS wound internally. Just cos the bleeding has stopped for now doesn't mean you are ok.

Heirhelp · 30/07/2016 18:15

I was advised by hospital to wait 8 weeks after a c section. I would ring up the labour ward and speak to a midwife for advice.

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user1468244773 · 30/07/2016 18:16

I think it was lochia, looked the same as when I do a mammoth breastfeeding session just abit more.

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HyacinthBouquetNo1 · 30/07/2016 18:18

I am trying not to be scary, but there is also the risk of air embolism with sex so soon after birth

AppleJac · 30/07/2016 18:22

I had sex as soon as the bleeding stopped after birth (approx 2-3 weeks) and i had a c section.

I ve never bled during sex though and it doesnt sound normal what you have described.

WhimsicalWinnifred · 30/07/2016 18:23

Don't worry. I waited 2.5 weeks and clearly you "went at it" more than we did but everything was fine. Mention it of yiu see a midwife if nervous but you'll be fine.

eternalopt · 30/07/2016 18:23

Sorry op, but read this thread out to my husband just to see the horrified look on his face. It was priceless!! Even if I'd been able to ignore the bleeding, soreness and raw nipples enough to feel frisky 9 days post c section, there's no way he would've!

AdultingIsNotWhatIExpected · 30/07/2016 18:26

I'm sure you'll be fine - your foof technically hasn't had the 'trauma' of giving birth if you had a c-section

That's sort of only half true.

the trauma of a CS is very very low and sex does need to be very gentle after a CS

(also a myth that CS mums don't need to do their pelvic floor exercises like vaginal birth mums)

eternalopt · 30/07/2016 18:26

But yes, please get yourself checked out. There's plenty of layers of stitches to tear down there with any physical activity.

pinkyredrose · 30/07/2016 18:26

April I was being sarcastic, would've thought that was obvious.

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user1468244773 · 30/07/2016 18:27

It was dp who jumped on me 😂 Tbh I think the emotions took over and it just felt right. My emotions have been so high and Iv never been in so much love for him. I feel fine and bleeding has stopped/gone back brown/pink

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Fomalhaut · 30/07/2016 18:27

Jeez, you are keen 😁

There a risk of infection so keep an eye on yourself. Any temperature you need to be checked out

PollyPerky · 30/07/2016 18:31

Bloody hell. We didn't have sex for 6-9 months because I'd been cut, stitched, was sore, knackered with 2 hourly feeds day and night, and had bleeding and sore nipples for weeks.

Dontyouopenthattrapdoor · 30/07/2016 18:31

You both sound as stupid as each other then tbh.

You're recovering from major surgery and you're already in antibiotics for it? And not even a condom?

SERIOUSLY?

Eva50 · 30/07/2016 18:31

9 days!!!! I'm 9 years post section and I'm still treading carefully.

BigGreenOlives · 30/07/2016 18:32

Just make sure you get the MAP, a friend of mine went to the 6 week check up & the dr told her she was pregnant. Lucky woman had two children very close together.

callmeadoctor · 30/07/2016 18:34

How long did your surgeon tell you to abstain from sex?

PortiaCastis · 30/07/2016 18:35

Excuse me for saying so but I hope this wasn't missionary

Chippednailvarnishing · 30/07/2016 18:35

I'd be really unhappy taking the MAP if I were breast feeding as well as antibiotics.

AdultingIsNotWhatIExpected · 30/07/2016 18:38

You wouldn't "jump on" your partner 9 days after an appendixectomy or other abdominal surgery…

.. but somehow because a CS doesn't cut the actual vagina (just massively traumatises the lower abdomen in general), CS mums are fair game to be hit on for sex? Hmm, I don't understand it.

Okay if the woman initiates it, but I wouldn't initiate sex with my partner just 9 days after he had a major abdominal operation.

NerrSnerr · 30/07/2016 18:39

I think you need to speak to your midwife or GP. Would the antibiotics affect the morning after pill?

It took us about 6 months to do it after my c section and it was still agony!

iMatter · 30/07/2016 18:41

Can you take the morning after pill if you're breastfeeding?

DinosaursRoar · 30/07/2016 18:45

There's a lot of woman who rock up for their 6 week check already pregnant - you're at least not going to end up with 2 in the same school year with your eldest being a summer baby!

Speak to your HV/midwife if you've not been signed off yet.