I've recently discovered I'm pg with dc3
It's very early days, but I am already thinking of the birth. My booking appointment should be in 4-6 weeks time and I'd like to think things through properly before seeing her and requesting where to give birth.
So, I had an assisted vaginal delivery with dd1 in 2009. It was a long labour: 31hrs in total, 7hrs active labour and 2hrs unsuccessful pushing. She got stuck and was getting distressed, so I had an episiotomy and she was delivered by ventouse.
The worst part was I damaged my tailbone. I felt something happen when I pushed and after that, rather than pushing with the contractions, it felt like I was pushing against the pain in my tailbone. It's never been the same since. I can't sit on my bottom (always leaning on one butt-cheek or the other) and moving my legs in certain ways makes it ache.
I went to a different hospital and requested an ELCS for dd2 in 2012 for the tailbone reason. The (very senior) consultant who I saw was dismissive of my reason and unsympathetic. DH and I jumped through a lot of hoops, but the consultant did agree eventually - but it was an unpleasant and stressful process (and to be frank, has put me off getting pg before now). He pitched worst-case CS outcomes against best-case VB outcomes and it was just a total mindfuck. However, he was an excellent surgeon; he did a fantastic job. I had no healing issues and the scar is great. I just don't know if I can face him again, or if I should just go with who and what I know.
I think I would like to have a repeat ELCS because:
1). My tailbone issue is still present but the first ELCS did not make it worse
2). I could still further damage my tailbone with another VB
3). Small risk of uterine rupture to add to VB risks
4). Therefore for me at this point in time, I think the risks of ELCS are more predictable (obviously haven't had 12w or 20w scans yet).
5). This is our last baby so a second section would be my last.
Oh, and I have asthma which is a new diagnosis since I had dd2. I wonder if that makes a difference?
Should I aim to go the same hospital and consultant as dd2? Same hospital but different consultant? Or somewhere completely different?
Sorry for the ramble, I hope I'm making sense. I'd be very grateful for your opinions.