UK fight for Caesarean section

[Buttercup28]

Hey ladies

I'm just wondering if anyone could give me some advice and/or success stories of your fight for a caesarean in the UK please?

I have an underlying medical condition which my OB says is not as risky as a c section. However my gut instinct is taking over and I want to be super safe by having this section.

My husband and I have decided to push for a c section due to this underlying medical condition, we think it best all round and more so for the baby.

Well my anxiety about it has been through the roof. I am 25 weeks.

I had an appointment with the obstetrician to discuss this last week.

In a nutshell I was a total emotional wreck and could not stop crying.
Therefore I couldn't put my thoughts and concerns across as much as I should have been able to.

She suggested I was depressed (I am not!) I'm just extremely anxious about the birth due to medical reasons.

She wants me to have a vaginal birth and there was no telling her otherwise.

She said if I see someone about my "depression" then I will have a clearer head as will understand why they want me to have a vaginal birth!!!! I couldn't be more clear on anything else in my life!!

So I have emailed Birth Rights to ask them for help with regards to my next steps.

Since the OB appointment, I have requested to be seen by an OB who is more sympathetic to my medical condition and my overwhelming anxiety that has developed over this. I have emailed PALS at the hospital as I believe the OB did not follow the NICE guidelines.
A supervisor of midwives has scheduled in an appointment with me on Monday to discuss my requirements and concerns re caesarean.

I also had my general 25 week midwife appointment a few days ago. She read the notes and was horrified by what the OB had said. She is 110% behind me with my reasons and agrees a c section would be best.

So I had my appointment today with the birthing reflections midwife at the hospital today.

It was ok, just as I expected. She told me the c section risks and then I spoke about my concerns etc.

She understands my concerns and even said she would feel like how I feel.

However, she isn't confident I will get my section. She said they never do cs on maternal request and that my underlying medical condition wasn't enough risk to warrant the section!!!

If the underlying condition effected my baby, it could be fatal. I am not willing to take that risk.

On top of this, my anxiety is through the roof..really bad.

I have a meeting with he lead obstetrician next Tuesday but she doesn't think it will be granted.

I am so stressed, anxious and upset. I don't know where to turn.

I have 2 good reasons to request this c section and I don't feel anyone is taking me seriously.

Ladies that were granted their section due to anxiety, can I ask how your process was and which hospital it was at?

Thank you

P.s Applogies for any typos I'm on my phone!

Oh good god, you need help with your "issues" Crazyqueen??

Ignoring all the nonsense in this thread, op, have you considered antiviral therapy? For herpes sufferers, even with an active outbreak the risk of transmission is very small, and practically negligible if you are symptom free (even without the medication) You provide a certain level of immunity to your baby via antibody transfer prior to birth.

No, sorry, QueenMary, you are not a 'comedian'.
Some of my best friends are comedians and you are not one.

Buttercup, please post again on another thread/under a NC or whichever way you are comfortable - there's actually a lot of support to be had wrt your problem.

Buttercup, please post again on another thread/under a NC or whichever way you are comfortable - there's actually a lot of support to be had wrt your problem.

^ What pacific said. Its such a shame you've had nasty "people" on your thread, there is a lot of support for this and you should never have been attacked.

I must say, I'm grateful for being brought up in their forum. Just me! Wow. What an honour.
Thank you, thank you. If you want to send me flowers, bear in mind that I hate roses. So it's either tulips or gerberas.

OP, I agree with two PPs, create another thread as this one seems to be changed to a troll paradise. And don't pay any attention to what this old ugly freak is saying. Sadly she has chosen your thread for trolling, it has really nothing to do with you. Once again - good luck with your fight.

I'm jealous, Est, I was hoping to be quoted

I'm so sorry, OP. Another one saying please do come back and talk.

Some nonsense on here.

OP - just wanted to share my experience. When a registrar tried to tell me at 35 weeks that I had missed the chance to have an elective section with dd (2nd dc after having one CS previously) I was very upset. I made an appointment to see the consultant and went to that with dh.

I found that having dh as my advocate was very helpful. Where I was emotional, he was able to calmly asset my point of view and we came to a mutually acceptable solution.

Might be helpful to get your partner/mother/friend to come along to future appointments and get a solution to this one ASAP? If your current consultant is not playing ball then you should ask to change?

Buttercup I fully support every mother's decision to choose a CS if that's what she wants.

What I would say is that if you are asking for a CS because of the risk of catching herpes, and in fact there is no increased risk unless you have sores, then the medical professionals will not see that as a good reason and may be more inclined to argue with you.

Also if you are asking for a CS because you think that CS is totally safe, then the medical professionals will be worried about that because CS also carries risks (also a baby born by CS can still catch herpes), and so again they may be more inclined to argue with you.

In your shoes I would suggest saying to the obs that you are very very anxious about vaginal birth and want a CS purely for that reason (ie leave out the bits about herpes). Your anxiety is something they can't argue with, iyswim, whereas the stuff about herpes can be argued about.

Hope that makes sense?

I also agree with asking about antiviral treatments - just read something about how studies have shown that can help reduce risk of transmission (whatever kind of birth you have).

Hi there I am currently 38 1/2 weeks pregnant with my first baby, all was going well and planning a normal birth. However for the past 2 months I have been suffering with neuralgia, really bad! It has caused swollen glands in the throat, my ear drum has retracted back to the bones in my ear, pain in the jaw, temples and all over the right hand side of my head front & back! This pain is severe, ive never experienced anything like it! Had antibiotics been to dentist had teeth removed, its been a livinghell!Basically I am not sleeping more than 2 hours at night, im so exhausted all the time, the pressure in my head is soo bad I have even lost sight in my eyes!! Im due to see my consultant on Thursday & was thinking of asking for an elective cesarean! With all the pressure and pain in my head im really worried something really bad is gonna happen to me when it comes time to push, I also feel so exhausted all the time due to not sleeping! Can anyone relate to this or similar experience? ? I really think cesarean might be my best option! thanks in advance x

Sorry, I'd hate to be sliced open. I'd find that strange & tbh if i'd had cs, I think it would have effected bonding with my babies. Same if I had bottle fed rather than breastfed.

Utter bollocks on all counts.

Your body is made for vaginal birth. CS takes weeks to recover from, whereas v birth you bounce back in days. IME anyway.

Vaginal birth would have killed us.

I recovered in two weeks.
VBAC friend still wets herself three years later.

It's all relative.

denz- I would start your own thread. I am sure that you will get some good advice.