I'm never going to have this baby am I? :(

[ShowMeShowMeTheWine]

41+3 and have lost all hope of ever having this baby
Dc2, hardly engaged, failed 2nd sweep yesterday and absolutely nothing happening.
No signs, nothing.

I'm giving up.

Just sick of not sleeping, pain from spd, nausea, can't do anything with dd as have no energy and can't move.
SICK of people asking if I've had it yet - NO!!!! Like I'm inconveniencing them by still being pregnant?! I'm not doing it on purpose!

Sorry just need a rant.

It will happen. Dc can't stay in there forever.
I thought dc2 was never going to arrive too, he was a week overdue then suddenly it all kicked off without any niggles or twinges, 2.5hrs later he was here.

Hopefully it'll be similar for you.

Poor you, I remember it well. The time just drags and drags. You will have the baby though. Long walks, curry, sex if you can face it

S/he'll come out eventually! Good luck!

That's the thing BBQ, I keep reading about stories like yours as all it does is make me more sad because it's not going to happen.

I'm starting to worry something bad will happen to the baby. I just can't see us ending up with a healthy baby

when's your induction date? This time next week you should be having your cuddles.

Not until next week. Midwife has warned me it won't happen straight away so could take 4/5 days after it's started.

MWs know nothing. That sort of statement means that you should go into spontaneous labour any minute and baby will be here by teatime.

Well I have never met anyone who was ten months pregnant so I'm pretty sure you won't be the first.

I assume you have tried all the obvious things - sex, nipple stimulation, raspberry leaf tea, curry?

Feeling emotional could be the first sign of labour?

msbug you're right. I cried by the washing machine because it hurt to bend down and put the washing in - not entirely rational. BAM - baby.

We've tried everything.
I can't stop crying. I feel like an awful mum because dd has just had to sit and hug me while I cried. I can't stop. I shouldn't do that infront of her.
I just feel awful.

My sympathies, ShowMe
Dd was late, and it was shit. I kept bursting into tears every 5 minutes because nothing was happening at all. I felt such pressure to have that baby as well.

This is going to sound a little mental, but I had a chat with my midwife and she gave me some aromatherapy oil (something with rose and geranium, I think) to help me "let go" of the pressure. I tried to focus on relaxing and had a good chat with dd inside of me - we can do this, let's do it together kind of stuff and I believe it helped.

Don't panic, in France you wouldn't even be counted as overdue yet. My third was 18 days late, and I felt exactly the same at your stage, that things were never going to happen. Have you had any scans? I was being scanned/monitored daily at the end as I refused induction and that was nice to get a daily reassurance that everything was ok.
In the end I had a lovely quick home birth in the early hours of the 18th day overdue, baby was absolutely fine and healthy (and is now 4..) :)
Hang on in there..

Yuk I remember this stage really well with dd2. I was induced at 43 weeks (I think).

No particular advice, just my sympathies! It'll all kick off soon one way or another. The wait is really miserable though.

Could you have some emergency acupuncture?

I think I'm freaking out because when I saw the midwife she struggled to hear the hb with the Doppler, eventually just saying she could hear it faintly. I can feel baby moving but that's really worried me.
Also I don't see anyone now until induction and I'm panicking that if something were to happen I'd not know unil it's too late.
I keep picturing having to tell dd we're not having a baby come home it's really worrying me.

100% call up with midwife and tell of your concerns! Say you want to come in to ensure the baby is healthy!

She only works tues/fri so I can't get in touch with her until Friday now. Don't really have anyone else to talk to.

waves to ShowMe - not sure if you remember me but I'm on the antenatal thread, due the same day as you. I understand what you mean; although I know baby's don't stay in there forever it genuinely doesn't feel as though I'll go into labour! It doesn't help that DD came at 39+4, and like you I'm worrying that something could go wrong with this one. Have you spoken to your MW at all about your concerns? Maybe they could offer extra checks to help reassure you that the baby's ok.

FWIW another poster on the thread went right up to 40+13 before she spontaneously went into labour and had her girl a few hours before she was scheduled for induction.

Just call up the hospital and tell them. They'll let you come in and wait to be seen and it should reassure you or make them take action if necessary.

There's no benefit to making yourself worry so much

Sorry major X-post. Do you have a number for your day assessment unit on the notes? They could probably give you the number for some one else to talk to if they couldn't help themselves.

If you're worried, call the hospital and insist on going in for a check, straight away. I did this and they were very understanding. Take your DD with you.

I remember how fed up and tearful I was waiting for dc2 who was induced at 41+4. I insisted on being induced and it was so quick...induction can be a good thing. I struggled with baby blues after dc1 but just felt immense relief after dc2 that it was all over . If you are worried phone the antenatal ward and insist on being seen...good luck!

Hi Dizzy, sorry I had to leave the sept thread, just getting me down all those babies being born and that feels so far away for me. Hope you're ok?

Rang the hospital but because I can feel baby moving they won't see me.

Thank you all for your kind words. It means a lot just being able to let it all out.

Been there, done that and worn the t-shirt ShowMe! Dd1 was 40+10 and dd2 was 40+13 (also had 2 sweeps that did nothing). I thought she was never going to come, it was immensely frustrating (especially after I'd convinced myself that she'd arrive earlier than dd1). I stressed myself out about the induction as well (wanted a waterbirth etc). In the end, they broke my waters to induce me and she arrived 12 hours later (bearing in mind that her sister took over 30 hrs!). If you've already had a vaginal birth, induction should hopefully work pretty well (not sure what your midwife is on about!).

I would ring the maternity unit if you have any concerns- they normally pay attention if you're overdue. Might be worth asking for an exam or a scan?

My other tip would be to plan a fun treat with your dd each day so that you've got a silver lining if the baby doesn't arrive. We went for a lot of afternoon teas and ice creams waiting for dd2 (wasn't really capable of much else)! Or get someone to mind dd and enjoy your last coffee on your own for the next few months!

Hope you see some action soon

Well, maybe not coffee if you have raging heart burn like I had!

Sorry, x post!