I'm never going to have this baby am I? :(

[ShowMeShowMeTheWine]

41+3 and have lost all hope of ever having this baby
Dc2, hardly engaged, failed 2nd sweep yesterday and absolutely nothing happening.
No signs, nothing.

I'm giving up.

I think if the baby is moving there isn't anything to worry about.

I was so.emotional the day I went into labour, I couldn't face the walk home from work so phoned my friend and she came to gave me a lift, and when I got in the car I started crying tears of gratitude .

I also agree with the pp who said there is a bit psychological element to going into labour; animals need to feel safe to go into labour and I think humans do too. So something like relaxation or aromatherapy could well help (and I say that as someone who doesn't normally go in for that kind of stuff at all )

Hang on in there, I was induced at 40+15 after never thinking she was going to arrive. I had no signs, no progress, nothing. Induction took in total 4.5hrs, active labour being something like 24mins! See, light at the end of the tunnel. Good luck !

'after never thinking'. Makes complete sense ! Apologies, on phone.

I'm late too and it sucks. :(

Very impatient. MW reassure me that either baby will come or they'll help it out at 2 weeks over. I just keep checking movement ... and waiting ... and waiting ... and eating curry.

Just been told I don't have child care for the day I'm booked to be induced so now have to ring and see if ican come in the next day.
Another day of feeling like this.
I'm afraid I've lost the will today.

I was induced at 40 + 11, following two failed sweeps. DD not engaged, nothing to suggest anything other than dynamite was going to get her out.

I had one induction pessary at 7.30pm and she was born twelve hours later.

Hang in there, OP.

I feel for you. I'm 'only' 2-3 days overdue and I am utterly fed up. I have 2 babies who were both born at 39 weeks, I stupidly thought this one would be the same. Oh how lucky I was

Cervix is high and closed, no BH, nothing. Actually, I had more BH at 37 weeks than I do now.

Tmi, look away now if you dont want to read about discharge ...... But I lost a huge, huge amount of mucus plug in my underwear when I woke this morning. Not a bloody show, just yellow, thick mucus. I even googled images (yes, I know) and it's definitely that. Then I googled stories for stories about labour after losing the plug and it can take weeks apparently, it doesn't even mean labour is near. cries
Have you lost yours?

I have had a hot curry, walked the legs off myself, had sex, listened to relaxation CDs but nothing...

DS2 was three weeks overdue. When he decided to come it was very quick...born at home (not intentional). He is now a strapping, 6ft2, forty year old. Hang on in there gal!

I had show too, but still waiting. Been walking today and more curry.

Thank you all again

Feel a wee bit better now dh is home and dd is in bed but still keep crying at everything.
No I've had no show/plug whatever. Even after the sweeps.

Dreading being induced, will I have to stay in? Really worried it'll end up with more intervention which is the one thing I'd wanted to avoid (forceps etc)

I think some babies just wait until mum is fed up. Properly fed up, like you are now.

You may have one of those and will go into labour tonight.

I had one of those at 41+3.

Oh, and this baby turned around to be back-to back at 41 weeks, despite being huge (10'4). She is still a crazy kid.

I know what you mean ShowMe, whilst I want to be happy for everyone I do sometimes feel a bit sad that all these people due later than me seem to be going before - it sometimes makes it feel even more like it's just never going to happen. Though without that thread I'd possibly go insane, I've no one to during the day other than DD, who's lovely but being 2 tends to repeat stuff a lot

Glad you're feeling a little bit better, all the hormones don't help either. And when you say failed sweeps do you mean as in they didn't even do them or just that labour hasn't started after them? I've been doing a lot of searching online and it seems that repeated sweeps are what's more likely to be successful rather than 1 offs. I've got my 2nd sweep tomorrow but already have the mindset that it probably won't work and I'll be looking at a 3rd (which'll hopefully do the trick). What day are you booked in for your induction?

*no one to talk to

I had DS at 40+17! I fought induction tooth and nail until 40+ 15, and then caved in....I'd tried everything, even castor oil (well, at least it cleaned me out ) and acupuncture. Funny about the "feeling safe" thing though, I was with an abusive ex.....

One thing that annoyed me was that I had v. little info on the induction process, and had no idea how long it took. Basically, they admitted me and gave me a pessary for 24 hours, so I had to spend a night in the pregnancy ward on my own, with some poor woman suffering from HG in the cubicle next to me retching every 5 minutes. I'd started having impressive feeling contractions by the morning, and was finding the pessary increasingly uncomfortable, so made the executive decision to hoik it out.....then they eventually wheeled me upstairs and put me on Syntocinon. Although I had to have an epidural, DS's birth was v. straightforward after that....

That's it exactly dizzy. I've got 4 friends and we've all been due similar times as they've all had their babies already so that plus all the early arrivals on the thread just tipped me over.
She has done a sweep both times and this weeks was much more 'vigorous' shall we say but not a sausage from either. Think I'm more disappointed as that's what set off dd and that was only one sweep.
Was meant to be induced Monday but got to ring and try and move it to tues now

Did your midwife say how your cervix was feeling? Mine told me mine was ready which made me feel a bit better about the induction (even if the sweep didn't work). If you're 2 cm (may even be 1 cm, can't remember) dilated then they can just break your waters without any need for a pessary. This is much more common if it's your second birth. At my hospital, once your waters are broken they make you walk around the hospital to kick start labour and give you 4-6 hrs to get into active labour. They threatened me with a drip (started contracting after they broke my waters but they still weren't close enough together after 6 hrs) but I said I would only have it AFTER an epidural. By the time they put the epi in, my contractions had ramped up and I didn't need a drip! Birth was straightforward- 2 pushes, no stitches (think I was more exited about that than the sex of the baby )! So inductions aren't all bad

hi. i came on here to write exactly what you have written. i'm 40+9 and now just so fed fed up. can't move. can't sleep. could cry at anything (and i'm not a major cryer). OH was like :-/ the other night. everything hurts. my legs are like elephant's. my parents arrived nearly a week ago (not staying with us though).
i've had a sweep (yesterday - nada) and got one booked in for tomorrow as i've got my induction on sunday which i want to avoid if at all possible (because of the horrendous things i've heard, though some of those positive stories have made me feel a teeny bit better).
curry and generally lots of hot food. tick. (lots of) sex. tick. bouncing on ball. tick. visualisation. tick.
i've had acupuncture and got another round this morning but losing the will to live! i'm trying to book in for reflexology too and if not possible a massage to see if that helps me relax as i now feel that i'm too stressed about it to let it happen naturally. though i feel like i'm grasping at straws.
i was so 'excited' about it too and now just really grrrrrrrrr. i've been positive for ages and done loads of nice things - tea and cake, walk round the local zoo and local beaches, lovely dinners out with OH and friends/family, mooched round town, sorted out the house (again) all in the last week.
i too don't 'believe' these stories of 'well i had/felt nothing and then boom 6 hours later...'. i'm sure they are true just do not feel like it is going to happen to me. and feel like a rubbish person for it.
sorry for my winge and that i can't offer any help. just thought i'd let you know that you are certainly not alone! big hugs xxx

Frannie Friends of mine who were induced just advised me to have a different birth plan - make it clear you are concerned it will be intense and would prefer pain relief. 2 of them didn't get to the drip though - the pessary kicked things off anyway. Which is apparently a bit less intense.

It doesn't help I know but just to put my hand up as another person who never had any type of warning before going into labour. No Braxton Hicks, no show, no waters breaking except whilst actively in labour. DS2 was induced so doesn't count (11 days over but with a dodgy placenta or I'd have waited) but both DS1 and DD were late (8 and 10 days) and I had nothing until I woke up in the early hours with actual contractions. It will happen but I have every sympathy for that need for something to happen - been there and absolutely understand how crap it is.

You can ask for an epidural before they put the drip in (although both times is been in labour for a while, so also wanted a break). I was quite adamant about it as I'm a total wimp with pain, and my midwives were fine about it.

You lot are ace thank you all!
Rang to change induction as can't do Monday and they've booked me in for Sunday. She also said I should be having sweeps every other day so rang midwife and booked for today and sat. Bit pissed off midwife was happy just to leave me until induction? But anyway, fingers crossed SOMETHING gets things going before Sunday or that it goes like a bang Sunday!

That's better. PMA and all that. I hope you have a sneezing fit and a baby in a jiffy x

Just a thought, you mentioned childcare while you are being induced; do you have a plan what you will do if you go into labour before then?

If not, I wonder if this is stopping you from relaxing enough to go into labour?

It's literally Monday msB, typical! Just hoping it happens Sunday or before as if it happens Monday dh will have to miss it