Giving birth to a baby who is potentially very sick - I am soooo scared. Anybody got any thoughts?

[emkana]

God it's bad enough going through labour when you know/think your baby is fine, but I can already feel myself going tense at the thought of giving birth to this baby who might be very very ill...

in a way I want to keep him inside forever, at least I know he's okay in there.

Here holding your hand too - enjoy the sunshine again today, Emkana!

have missed your other threads emkana so not up to speed with what you've been going through, but wanted to wish you luck and strength - i very much hope that the birth and everything that comes afterwards brings you joy.

x

Just nipped in to hold your hand too
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I didn't know DS2 was very ill until I gave birth (scans were fine etc) so I can't say I have experienced what you are going through.. but I too wanted to pop in and hold your hand. And I'll be here after the birth to do so as well, whatever happens. Looking back, if I had known what was going to happen with DS after birth (9 weeks in SCBU, several of them in NICU) I would have tried to prepare myself for "handing him over" to the experts until he was well enough for ME to look after; that for me, was the hardest part. I also found comfort chatting to certain SCBU staff who I built up a bond with; I found the very best nurses are those who are prepared to "nurse" the stressed parents of the babies as well as the babies themselves (even though it may not be in their job description!). I wrote an article about this which was in the Nursing Times a few years ago.

Do you have any relaxation techniques you can use to try to keep calm in this last phase of pregnancy? I know they are of limited use at times like this.. but they do help a bit I find.. and I am a very anxious person.

Thinking of you.. whatever happens you won't be along, in RL or online. Try to use the support offered (I blocked a lot of people out and did myself a real disservice).

SJ x

Thank you for all those hands!
(and the other bits, 006)

SJ, funny you should say that about blocking people out - that's exactly what I'm doing atm with a lot of people in RL, just feel I can't talk about it really in RL.

I'm not very good at relaxation techniques, I find what helps me most is to focus on the dd's.

I packed my bag today, btw - at bl*dy last!!!

emkana, i know you are just going to be such a good mum to your special little boy, whatever it takes.you will find the strength from somewhere, i just know it. if i was with you now i would give you a big hug. love and best wishes sent to you and your family. xx

emkana, well done for packing your bag

Excellent! Well done on the packed bag.

emkana-just wanted to let you know that im thinking of you, i have no experience of what you are going through,but just wanted to give you a virtual {{hug}}
xx

Just cheking in to send you all the best - thinking of you a lots and wondering how you are.

Well done on packing your bag. That will probably delay things now! (Bit like taking a brolly to ensure it doesn't rain!!).

Haven't anything helpful really to say but good luck, be strong. I really hope everything works out well for you.

Hope you have a lovely sunny day with your dds emkana

Best of Luck emkana - hope you find out he's ok.

Here's hoping for an easy birth and then you can start the fun part - getting to know each other, and all those lovely baby cuddles.

Have followed your threads, but not posted before. I don't have practical advice but I send you a warm virtual hug.

Good luck emkana, how exciting you're having a baby! I want another baby!!! Stay strong hun
xx

Found you! I've been thinking about you and wondering how you are doing in all this heat. Soon you will be able to see your lovely new baby. But I can understand why you want to keep him safe inside you, I feel the same way about mine most of the time. Having the baby means scans and tests and maybe discovering something we don't want to find out.
Sending you love and vibes for a swift painless labour and a luxurious room to recover in, with caring midwives and doctors who keep you constantly informed and reassured.

never posted on your threads emkana, but on this one i am, to say your a very brave lady and i know you will be strong enough to cope with the birth when it happens, you know you have to so you will because your a mother and its what you will do best so please try not to worry too much, its good to see you on the june board again and we are all here for you every step of the way.

thinking of you xxx