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Giving birth to a baby who is potentially very sick - I am soooo scared. Anybody got any thoughts?

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emkana · 06/06/2006 13:20

God it's bad enough going through labour when you know/think your baby is fine, but I can already feel myself going tense at the thought of giving birth to this baby who might be very very ill...

in a way I want to keep him inside forever, at least I know he's okay in there.

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emkana · 06/06/2006 22:02

I can just see it now that I will probably go overdue by 10 days or something...

if he's not here yet by next Monday, when I'm going to hospital again for a check-up, I might actually take them up on the offer of being induced.

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Cadmum · 06/06/2006 22:09

I am another one who has read your posts and wondered if there was anything of value that I could add to the threads...

My heart goes out to you as you prepare for this new phase of your life. Your little man is very blessed to have such a caring mum and I hope that you find the strength to cope with what lies ahead.

Wishing you a safe labour and delivery as well as some quick answers to your worrying questions.

Thinking of you and your family over the coming days and weeks.

rickman · 06/06/2006 22:11

Thinking of your Emkana. x

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madamechocolat · 06/06/2006 22:31

Sending you and your little man warmest, strongest thoughts x

northender · 06/06/2006 22:45

Take care. Thinking of you.

cheeseypeas · 06/06/2006 22:53

Don't know what to say other than I'm thinking of you.

They can do such amazing things in this day and age and the important thing is that they know about this now and will be as prepared as possible.

x x x

robinpud · 06/06/2006 22:54

I really would love to be able to add something other than my best wishes to you and your family. Perhaps you can visualise this not as a thread but as part of a web, a web of support, love and good wishes. May your little one soon be a glistening raindrop sparkling on this web.

bluebear · 06/06/2006 23:01

Thinking of you and wishing you all the best.

fairyfly · 06/06/2006 23:03

Shit, i had no idea emma, i've not been looking at that many threads.

Don't be scared, enjoy the birth x

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mrsnoah · 06/06/2006 23:08

dear emkana, as a mum of 3 each with different serious health problems in pregnancy, i have a small idea of what you are going thru. But remember; your baby has made it this far and so is a little fighter. Stay strong too, you will cope. x

SparklyGothKat · 06/06/2006 23:18

emkana haven't posted on your threads before but have read them. I know what you mean about keeping him inside where you know he is safe, Dd1 was a 31 weeker and I didn't want to push because I wanted her to stay inside me where she was safe.
I hope everything goes ok for you

xxxx

MadameClarydeClary · 06/06/2006 23:54

emkana, this thread must show you how much everyone here on MN is thinking of you.
So to echo others, I am thinking of you often. I know that your son will be so so loved, that's so clear from all your posts.
It's so hard I know - the waiting and not knowing - but it's almost at an end, you are going to meet your baby boy and welcome him into the very best you can offer him.
Hoping for a good outcome for you all.
Claryx

ponygirl · 07/06/2006 00:18

Thinking of you emkana. I've followed your threads and am sending all positive vibes. Pg xxx

yawningmonster · 07/06/2006 03:38

emkana - before ds was born we had no indication what so ever that there maybe something wrong, I went into hospital assuming that I would turn around a few days later and take my new baby home. Instead he was a critically ill little boy with a condition that was hard to diagnose and very rare. We coped and no matter what happens so will you. It may not feel like it now as it is all unknown, take each day as it comes and at the end of each day try to focus on any possitives there may have been. Our ds survived and although we have had a bit of a bumpy road I know things could have been much much worse for us and trying to focus on what was going well was what got me through the worst of it. Please make sure you have good support networks set up and dont hesitate to ask said networks for what you need. All the very best.
R. and I.

eidsvold · 07/06/2006 06:00

emkana - I did not realise you were due so soon... I seemed to think you had longer to go - am sure you are glad you don't. For us - even though we knew what to expect - I was still scared of having dd1 - kind of like - once she is out I was no longer in 'control' and she was no longer 'mine' iykwim. Luckily she had ideas of her own and I ended up having to have her two weeks early due to my placenta packing it in. I to this day can remember thinking - as I am being wheeled in for the c-section... I can't have a baby today I have to go shopping and finish packing my hospital bag and go to the bank Smile even remember telling dh when I came out of surgery that he would have to go to the bank etc and what he had to buy at the shops..... - strange what your mind focuses on when you are in shock.....

One thing for me that helped - was that now she was out - we could determine the exact effect her heart defect would have on her and more definite courses of action and support could be organised and provided.

Unfortunately I was only able to see dd1 in passing as she was taken straight to ICU and so that was a little disappointing but she was here and my baby and I knew we would get through whatever we had to.

I cannot imagine what you are going through as we are all different and there is still so much uncertainty for you - I can appreciate the keeping them inside forever where all is okay ( in the end for us - that wasn't an option as all wasn't okay)- but at least once your little boy (?) is here - then things can happen and you can get on with being his mummy and caring for him ( in whatever way you can) as you did with your two girls. After all - he is your baby - everything else aside - he will be your wee little man.

That was almost 4 years ago and I look at her now and can't remember that frail little babe - she is just amazing and the time has just flown - know we have been through tough times that do not bear repeating but as she sits watching her favourite tv show - I can't imagine how we got through it but we did.

sorry for the rambling mesage - hope hearing someone elses story helps - if not - ignore my ramblings....

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emkana · 07/06/2006 08:12

Just checking in to let you know that I'm still here. I seem to always wake up in the early hours of the morning with cramps, but then go back to sleep and by 7am all is normal, no contraction in sight.

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unicorn · 07/06/2006 08:14

thinking of you - with lots of positive vibes xxxxxx

lanismum · 07/06/2006 09:12

have followed your threads, thinking of you today, wishing for the best possible outcome for you and your baby boy xx

notanotter · 07/06/2006 09:14

lots of love and thoughts em x

Esmummy · 07/06/2006 09:29

Just wanted to add my thoughts Emkana. Hope things get moving soon for you and wishing the best possible outcome concerning LO.

fishie · 07/06/2006 09:40

emkana, my hopes and very best wishes are with you. thinking of you.

CarmenH · 07/06/2006 09:59

Best wishes emkana.
You have the strength to get through this difficult time.
Although I understand your desire to keep your lo safe inside you remember the lovely things that giving birth will mean; seeing his little face, wondering who he looks like, marvelling at his gorgeous little hands and feet.
Even though he may be very ill ne will still be your beautiful boy. T
hinking of you. x