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Giving birth to a baby who is potentially very sick - I am soooo scared. Anybody got any thoughts?

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emkana · 06/06/2006 13:20

God it's bad enough going through labour when you know/think your baby is fine, but I can already feel myself going tense at the thought of giving birth to this baby who might be very very ill...

in a way I want to keep him inside forever, at least I know he's okay in there.

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blueteddy · 06/06/2006 13:23

Oh, emkana, this must be very frightening for you.Sad
I have no great advice or words of wisdom, but wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you.xx

HarpsichordCarrier · 06/06/2006 13:23

oh emkana Sad
I don't know what to say other than all our thoughts are with you and you will cope with whatever comes your way
HC xx

pinkranger · 06/06/2006 13:25

I dont know what to say as i have never experinced anything like what you are going through right now.Sad Hope that you have a good circle of family and friends around to support you.
Wishing you and your baby all the luck x x x x

KateF · 06/06/2006 13:25

I understand a bit of what you are going through as I had a complicated pregnancy with dd1 with weekly scans and constant talk of early delivery. I wanted to tell everyone to go away and leave us (me and dd) alone. She eventually arrived 8 days early through natural onset of labour but was a horrendous delivery and needed resuscitation and special care. Obviously you have a lot more to contend with but just wanted to say that I pray for you and your ds every day.

Feistybird · 06/06/2006 13:26

You've looked after this baby for months now already - that won't change after he/she's born.

Thinking of you.

BettySpaghetti · 06/06/2006 13:27

I can't imagine what you must be going through emkana.

I've never posted on your threads but have been aware of them -I just haven't any experience and feel I can't help but wanted to wish you all the best.

You are doing all you can, the most important thing, which is growing and nourishing this special little baby inside you. Its only natural that you want to protect him.

SecurMummy · 06/06/2006 13:28

Oh Emkana, I havn't posted to you before, but have kept hovering on your threads. I am so sorry that you are tense now, of all times.

I can understand the thought of keeping him in, I felt a little like that with dd3 (my 4th child) after some kind and loving person pointed out that 1 in 4 pgs miscarry and some one else commented that I would be lucky to have 4 normal children. I know it does not compare though Sad.

I feel stupid telling you to relax etc etc, but I guess that is all I can really say. Take a deep breath and enjoy some peace for the last few days before labour starts. Deal with the next bit when it happens, you can't pre-empt it.

Thinking of you. SMxx

niceglasses · 06/06/2006 13:29

Again, nothing of experience to add, but I have been thinking of you and will continue to. You sound frantic but strong if you know what I mean. Whatever the outcome, you will be a fantastic mum to this baby - I know that.

Much love

hunkermunker · 06/06/2006 13:30

Oh sweetheart Sad

No words, but much emotion. Thinking of you x x x

blueshoes · 06/06/2006 13:30

emkana, you've done all you can and more Smile. Think of it as allowing the health professionals to take some of the burden off you. And letting some clarity into the situation. It may not be any easier, but ... at least you will get more answers. I know what you mean about keeping him inside.

motherinferior · 06/06/2006 13:31

Emkana, like many other MNers I look for your posts regularly at the moment. Thinking of you.
xxxxxxxxx

Carmenere · 06/06/2006 13:34

On a positive note, you are actually well prepared for your sons arrival and there is a 'might' in there, there is a chance he will be ok and no matter what happens he is a lucky little person to have brave mum like you.
If the thoughts and prayers of strangers count in the greater scheme of things you and your son will be ok. Much love and luck to you and your baby.

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emkana · 06/06/2006 13:34

Thank you all.

I have been feeling so good and positive the last few weeks, but tomorrow is the due date and I'm just really really frightened now.

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Rhubarb · 06/06/2006 13:34

I don't know how you must be feeling right now because I've never been there. But whatever happens, one thing that I do know about this baby is that it is very very loved. No matter what happens, the love you have for this unborn baby has been evident throughout your posts on Mumsnet and no doubt will be evident to your baby too. If the power of love could heal, your baby would be fine! Keep loving that baby, make sure he/she knows how you feel about it, that's all you can do. This baby is one very very lucky baby to be surrounded by so much love, it's a huge gift for you to give and nothing that happens will ever change that.

I am wishing you the very best!

katierocket · 06/06/2006 13:36

Oh emkana, like others I wish there was something helpful I could say. I'd echo carmenere that he's going to be a lucky to have a mum like you. My thoughts are with you too.

sugarfree · 06/06/2006 13:36

The fear of the unkown is often worse than the reality.
Keep being as strong as you have been Emkana,we're all thinking of you and LO.
xxx

fairyjay · 06/06/2006 13:37

emkana
Was thinking about you.
When my ds was born, the immediate rush was to find out whether he had a unilateral or bilateral cleft lip and palate - not the normal counting fingers and toes that we all dream of!
You don't know for sure what you will face, but whatever it is, you will find the strength to deal with it. This baby is so lucky, to be born to such a special mum. Smile
Take care of yourself.

Enid · 06/06/2006 13:37

oh emkana. Lots of love and virtual support to you. x Enid

threelittlebabies · 06/06/2006 13:39

emkana I am thinking of you too. Have you visited the hospital and been familiarised with the neonatal unit? Have the staff explained to you about the treatment your ds may receive? Is there a specialist midwife at the hospital, or someone who could act as counsellor and liaise with doctors for you?

Just trying to think of some practical steps you could take now, to reassure yourself and give yourself a focus to keep you calm (! I know, easy for me to say)

Can't stress enough how much I am rooting for you both xxx

CaptainDippy · 06/06/2006 13:40

Thoughts and prayers are with you. You are an amazing woman and an example to us all. You will be a wonderful mother to your beautiful son, no matter what. xxxx

geekgrrl · 06/06/2006 13:40

oh emkana. :(
I don't have any experience of this but hopefully eidsvold will come along and post, she has been through it too.
This baby is lucky to be yours. He's loved and you're doing your best for him. I don't there is more you can do now - it must be just about impossible to try to relax.

foundintranslation · 06/06/2006 13:43

Em - thinking of you too, of course. No thoughts, really, but second Rhubarb's lovely post.

xxx

Twiga · 06/06/2006 13:48

Emkana, really don't know what to say but wanted you to know that you and your family are very much in my thoughts and prayers at the moment.

Bugsy2 · 06/06/2006 13:53

So wish I could make it all better. At least you should have all the medical staff on full alert for you.
Thinking of you.

MeAndMyBoy · 06/06/2006 13:55

I haven't posted before but have been keeping an eye out and you and your LO and family have been in my thoughts and prays.

It must be scarey the unknown that is facing you all. He is a blessed little chap to have you as his mummy.

Take care and hugs to you.

H x