Come and talk to me about your Induction

[McPhee]

I'm booked in for an induction this friday, first baby, and no idea really what to expect. In an ideal world, going in with an open mind is preferable. But in practice I'm probably going to be prone to losing it

I'm currently 37 weeks, but measuring 41 weeks with Polyhydramnios, large baby with enlarged abdomen, plus being back to back

So, what should I expect? What was your experience?

Be honest, I can take it

I think its because my bishops score was only 2.

Someone told me it needs to be at least a 7. Is that right??

yes if you have a bishops score of only 2 i doubt they could even break your waters at my hospital if you score a 8 or more then they may try and even then it doesnt always work or is difficult, i was 4cm dilated and they still struggled with dd!

looking at the guildlines i think you are entitled to insist on a section if that is what you want.

hope you get some rest tonight and will check in on you in the morning. have you spoken to a senior consultant?

Yeah,my consultant is senior. He's a Mr not a dr??

Baby is very very active tonight, I'm struggling. It really hurts because I'm so stretched. My pelvis is killing.

You poor thing. Think that's maybe why they gave me an epi for my ARM. Are they still monitoring you?

Blimey McPhee this is really crappy.

You can't even have a good fart in here.....

I really feel for you McPhee and I would love to turn up with every other MNetter on this thread and fight your corner for you. Let's see them refuse the cs in the face of dozens of angry mums!

We're all keeping our fingers crossed for you.

Yep, cheesy is right. Mr or Mrs/Ms are surgeons and DRs are physicians. Obs & Gynae 'drs' are surgeons...although none of them seem to be doing any bloomin' surgery on your McPhee!!

Good morning McPhee btw (and fellow thread followers!). How was your night??

Morning McPhee. Mr/Mrs/Dr/ whatever-just do something!!. McPhee is fed up.

Yes she is....and I reckon there must be a black mark against my name by now. But fuck 'em, my fanny, my choice :-D

OMG and also, when they examine you, why do they dig!! They're not excavating a tunnel ffs!!!

mcphee when they examine you i found it helped to make my hands into a fist and put them under my bum it tilts the pelvis and makes it easier, also if it hurts ask for gas and air, they will let you have that as well, it can be bloody uncomfortable, dont suffer if you dont have to!

Your fanny, your choice indeed and I honestly think you should be able to request (and have that request heard and accepted!) a cs if that's what you want! I bet the midwives actually feel really sorry for you but have to do what they're told/follow procedure or whatever. I wouldn't worry about annoying/offending/upsetting anyone! You can apologise later when you're holding a beautiful baby and your body's full of oxytocin (is that the happy hormone I'm thinking of?!) and blame all your pre baby behaviour on pregnancy hormones!

When it's all over get your DP to print this thread and put it in a card for the staff! Then they'll know exactly what you were going through!

5Mad, yes that fist under bum does help when they are having a dig. Just worried what McPhee would do if making a fist at this moment though.

True - and also if you're wearing an engagement ring with a rock on it, turn it over - otherwise - OUCH!

Not speaking from experience, honest guv!

I've just had a very interesting conversation with a lovely student midwife. I wasn't aware I could refuse to be examined, and by doing so they would have to find another way. I told her exactly what happened yesterday and has suggested I make a formal complaint about my treatment.

So that's it. No more internals for me. With my SPD I've suffered through all of them. Enough is enough for me thanks. Also she said I should quote NICE guidelines at them, coz it scares them when patients know official stuff ;-)

thats good mcphee yes you can refuse internals and they will have to do a section! i have had spd as well, so feel for you xxx

re putting yoru fists under your bum, i always do it when having a smear as well, it makes it much more comfortable and the nurse was suprised how much easier it made it for her and said in future she would recomend all ladies to do it, but WHY do midwives, drs, nurses etc not know this and recomend it in the first place!!

yowch at the ring henrietta see another good reason for living in sin and not being married/engaged, no ring to hurt my bum cheeks

Good for you mcphee you stick to your guns on that one and ignore any annoyance from them you may get, you're perfectly entitled to do it and you've been through enough.

Dreadful and only to familiar to me. Keep a diary of how you are treated. It will help with the letter you send after. Mine was replied to by them saying i imagined it all and was hormonal. My dh lost his temper in the end with the lack of care, lack of interest and pain I was in. Not helped by the midwife disagreeing with the registrar for my treatment, getting a second opinion and finding after the registrar had been put on garden leave for his bad decision making - he could have killed me.

Hope it's better now, and remember you are the ond having the baby and deserve to be treated well and have full information. Remember also that the majority of mudwves have not had kids or bf, so you have to make decisions yourself. Is there a doula you could call to come in, another birth partner, albeit one who knows about stuff?

Not wanting to put a dampner on anything but if you refuse internals then they a) either let you go naturally or b) give you a cs. If they go for the cs, you may still end up waiting. It's not a quick option unless an emergency. You might find they decide to do the cs next week. Although at least then you'll know what's what I guess. But I've seen plenty if planned and failed induction cs (including mine) get bumped back and back. Just might not be as quick an option as you want that's all.

Plus, they can't give you an gels or pessaries without an internal so your forcing the above. Which may take longer than actually trying for the second round. Although I know just how intrusive and painful all the induction methods and multiple sweeps can be.

I completely understand where you're coming from but just be careful that things don't come back to bite you on the ass and you end up in a worse place than you are now. If that's even possible?

Am I being too hopeful that even though this is distressing and frustrating (and gid knows theyve put you through it this week) that these DRs must know what's best?? Surely....

Oh McPhee what a horrible time you are going through. I really feel for you.

Having had a long labour and vaginal birth and then with DS2 a c section I personally would be tempted to go for the c section. Yes the recovery is longer but with Ds1 I was induced on a thurs had him on sat and was so exhausted I couldn't be bothered with him for the first day anyway.

With a planned section at least you dont run the risk of a long drawn out labour and being exhausted. Mind you I imagine you are already exhausted poor love.