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as requested, for those that do not already know, my birth story

176 replies

StrandedBear · 04/04/2012 12:19

This crops up a lot on various threads, and I feel terrible for hi-jacking threads.

I didn't know I was pregnant until I had DD. That sounds absurd, and I still don't really believe it myself.

I was a first year uni student so you can only begin to imagine my lifestyle, kebabs every week, binge drinking, weed, fags, the lot. I'm sure I don't have to spell it out to you.
I have ibs and was on the pill, and whilst on the pill when you have a break from the pill you have what is called a 'ghost bleed' this is not an actual period.

This may be the time to mention that I left my XP when I started uni and met my current DP (had DD after 4 months of being with DP)

I gave birth on the Friday, I was out clubbing on the Wednesday, had what I thought a horrible hang over on the Thursday morning with chronic stomach pain and vomiting (not the first time I've had a hangover like this) anyway the pain didn't stop all day so I had an early night. Friday morning my pain was still there, so thinking my ibs was playing up I rang for a doctor's appointment but there were non till Monday, fine I'll wait. It got to 6pm and I curled up for a sleep with a hot water bottle and popped 2 paracetamol, I woke at 9 grabbed my car keys to drive to a&e but was in too much pain to make it past the front door. Dropped keys and went to the toilet, it was about 9.55 and DP turns up for no reason at all.

When he arrived I was doubled over my bed, unable to move or speak, he asks me what's wrong and I said something like call an ambulane I'm dying. He says what? Then suddenly my pain changes from all down my back to round my fanjo and something inside me screams 'you are having a baby' DP calls 999 and is told to 'look' he yanks my bottoms down and shouts FUCK IT'S THE TOP OF A HEAD!! so he is on loudspeaker to paramedics, tells me to lie on my back and push, he the delivers dd, and I will remember to this day they asked on the phone 'is it breathing' his response 'no its blue' he then for a couple of minutes rubbed and patted her, and she took her first breaths just as the ambulance arrived to cut her cord.

I am strapped to a chair and carried downstairs with DP by my side and my friend, who had emerged just as the ambulance arrived carrying DD, they whisked me to hospital where they examined me and found no tearing and a perfect baby. She was born 6lbs 10ozs back to back with no pain relief.

DP stayed with me, didn't leave my side for 2 days until I sent him home to shower and tell his parents, and he has stayed ever since. He delivered, revived and has bought up a child that is not biologically his. And without him she wouldn't be here now.

I didn't look pregnant at all, I am a size 10 now and a stone fatter than I was when 9months pregnant.

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cheesesarnie · 04/04/2012 20:38

Grin if all pregnancies were like that i wouldnt blame you! how old is the suprise child now?

footflapper · 04/04/2012 20:40

Amazing Thanks
Don't forget to let us know when your family grows! xx

gemma4d · 04/04/2012 20:45

Stranded ... I must confess I'm one of the cynics who rarely believes the "I didn't know" claimers; I was totally believing you until I read that your DP encouraged you to do a test at (I think) 8mo? Most women who confess to wanting ice-cream don't end up doing a preg test. Did he have suspicions at that point?

bagpuss · 04/04/2012 20:49

That is an amazing story strandedbear. Your dp sounds brilliant, my dh couldn't even look when I was giving birth!

iliketea · 04/04/2012 20:49

I have seen your story before but bloody hell OP!! I cannot even imagine how you coped - my dd was an absolute shock to my system, and she was very much planned and I knew I was pregnant from 5 weeks.

Also the no cuddles thing is typical toddler behaviour I reckon. My dd never wanted to be put down until she was about 6 months, wanted constant cuddles. Now at 2 1/2, I practically have to bribe her for an occasional hug!!

StrandedBear · 04/04/2012 20:50

It was a few things, demanding ice cream and i can't believe I am about to admit this but I was peeing a lot more than normal and I accidentally peed on his bathroom floor

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gemma4d · 04/04/2012 20:53

LOL @ the pee-ing. Been there done that Blush It's an either / or : baby OR bladder!

LadyBabsWalthamCuddles · 04/04/2012 20:53

I have heard a bit of this before, I loved it then and I love it more now at least until you informed us that you wee'd on the bathroom floor Grin

StrandedBear · 04/04/2012 20:53

And I was moaning about putting half a stone on, incidentally DD was nearly 7lbs... But he demanded I do one

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Inthepotty · 04/04/2012 20:57

Bugger me Stranded, what a story. And what a fab DP!!

I didn't know I was PG until 7 months.

Similar, was horse rider previously and didn't change shape at all.

The human body is mental.

madammoose · 04/04/2012 20:59

I can't say "perhaps I might be pregnant" would have crossed my mind in your situation, particularly if it wasn't even on my radar.

An amazing and frightening (for you) tale with a lovely ending. You haven't got scan pics, but your daughter has a truly special birth story and a fab, tenacious Mum.

Congratulations!

puds11 · 04/04/2012 21:09

oh goodness! stories like these strike fear in my heart! i had my DD young, and decided since then that i wasnt having any more, but im constantly freeking out that this might happen to me!
Your DP sounds freeking amazing, if that had been my DP i would have had to give birth whilst lying him down and getting him a glass of water Grin
V jealous of your tiny prego tum, i looked like i was smuggling beach balls (still do).
I glad you managed to get past your PND and hope your course goes well Smile

ClaireFromWork · 04/04/2012 21:09

Stranded I hope you don't mind but is it OK if I ask MN Towers to stick this thread in Classics as it will go after a while and it is so incredibly interesting that it would be a shame to lose it.

StrandedBear · 04/04/2012 21:42

Claire that is fine :) its not everyday you're nominated for classics Blush I also dislike reading birth stories unless they are like mine Wink

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ClaireFromWork · 04/04/2012 21:45

:)

BooMagoo · 04/04/2012 21:57

Going back a bit. I don't think that anyone is could ever be condescending of you,only in complete awe Smile

ouryve · 04/04/2012 23:14

Wow - had no idea I was in established labour with DS2 until he fell into the toilet, but that takes the biscuit!

StrandedBear · 05/04/2012 15:26

Boo, I meant in general against younger people. I've had my fair share of 'looks' and utterances. The most shocking 'do you know who the dad is?' I was Shock

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LadyBeagleEyes · 05/04/2012 20:55

I don't know anymore when the 'right' age is Stranded.
I had a pretty wild past, though unlike you, I didn't have a child to put me on the straight and narrow. I was 39 when I had ds and he's 16 now (you do the maths clever clogs Grin.
But since I've been on MN apparently I'm the one that tuts at young mothers and looks at them in a funny way.
I think if we get on ageist threads I'll look out for you if you look out for me.

VickityBoo · 05/04/2012 20:59

Oh I'm crying at this, then I am pregnant and hormonal.

I watch 'I didn't know I was pregnant' on Sky and it just completely amazes and fascinates me.

Tonksforthememories · 05/04/2012 23:29

What an awesome story Stranded, your DD is adorable! Incidentally, did you go to UCLAN? Those pics look scarily like the halls i was in! :o

LadyBeagleEyes · 06/04/2012 00:06

I'd also like to see this thread in classics.
I know it's been moved to childbirth which is good but I do feel it's not in quite the right place.

BornSicky · 06/04/2012 21:07

you've made me sob like bastard!

I didn't know I was pregnant until I was over 6 months and went to the doctor thinking I had a serious problem with my stomach - I was thinking cancer or similar and just couldn't believe there was any chance I was pregnant. On the day I had my scan, I got in my car clutching the picture of my baby's face (he was too big to fit all of him in the scan) and drove 250 miles to show my parents. I've never been more scared in my whole life.

My little boy is gorgeous and my family just rallied round me and are incredible. I never managed to find the guy who got me pregnant and dread that chapter of my life where I will need to explain this to my son. But for now, I just know how amazing my life is with my baby boy in it and can't believe how lucky I am to have him.

Congrats to you stranded, I can't even begin to fathom just how much more terrifying it must have been to get into labour without knowing.

splashymcsplash · 14/05/2012 16:41

I just saw this thread after you linked to it in the other thread. I've seen bits of your story before, but it is amazing to see it all.

Your dd is absolutely adorable.

MardyBra · 14/05/2012 16:53

Thanks for the bump. I love this thread. Another belated vote for classics.