Hello all and thank you so much for sharing your experiences!
fruitybread, I admit my title obviously asked people to voice out any negative experiences, which is exactly what many have done and this is of course not a very fruitful way to get an objectic view of things. Nevertheless, I am pleased that so many appear to have had very positive experiences with epidurals, which was why I had planned to have one as well.
Today I saw two midwives, just by chance and had the opportunity to discuss my birth plan with both of them and in particular ask questions about epidurals. The first one I saw was very nice, but slightly irritating telling me to keep an open mind (which is fair enough I suppose..) and to not have it, if I feel like I could do without. She raved about how good I'd feel afterwards having done it all on my own, at which point I asked her "surely he epidural won't deliver the baby for me? If you have such a thing sign me up please"
! Ushy, I'm sure this MW would be much like the one you had..
The second MW was extremely helpful and objective and told me to not try to be a hero. She said it was my birth and I was the best person to judge when I was over a certain threshold. She calmly explained the possible side effects of epidurals and which ones of them were more common than others and told me that while the side effects certainly were something to bear in mind, labour alone had several possible complications so in reality, the potential complications with epidurals were no worse than with any major surgery or the like. She also told me that they generally try to make sure any woman, who's had an epidural will be positioned as upright as possible and as you self-administer the drug and control how much of it you have, it may be possible for you to stand, be on all fours etc. if you feel able to.
As I also suffer from severe SPD and have a hypermobile pelvis, I have an appointment with a physio tomorrow to discuss different labouring positions in particular which positions I can be in, if I have an epidural. All in all, I feel much more reassured and confident that whatever happens, it'll be ok and in the end there's a beautiful price awaiting :)!