present for you after a birth from dad

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I'm due to have my second DS in May.
First time around I didn't get anything. No flowers nothing, partly because I didn't ask for anything and we didn't have much money especially when you consider all the things that you have to buy for baby, and mums generally now come in last!

I was watching an episode of Antiques Roadshow a few weeks ago and a woman brought in a beautiful necklace that her husband had given her after the birth of their third child. It got me thinking what a lovely gift to pass on in years to come.

Did you receive a gift? would you like to? Or is this me being sad and hoping that being pregnant and "giving" him two sons is worth celebrating?

I got chuff all for DS1. Even more annoying was the fact that it was mother's day about a week after he was born and DH couldn't be bothered to do much other than get his lardy arse off the sofa at about 4pm and buy me a box of Milk Tray from the local Spar.

Unsurprisingly, I'm not expecting much this time round (4 weeks to go). Some flowers would be nice though. I wouldn't expect anything expensive like jewellry.

I've heard of people being given eternity rings and such.
I didn't get anything, but money was tight. It is a lovely idea to have something if can afford it, but it would have to come from the heart for me, rather than be 'asked for' and I can't imagine many blokes would have the foresight to think of it 'on their own'.

My DH bought me a really lovely keepsake photo album for piccys of our new son, lovely but I have no bloody idea where it is now oops!

first time i got flowers
second time i got flowers two months later, after DH realised he had forgotten .

My DH bought me a beautiful gold bangle when DD was born. he brought it into hospital the next morning, along with a lovely outfit for DD.

I got Nigella's Domestic Goddess book for dc1 because I was giving up work but chuff all for the other 3

First time I received a new blouse - extra big and with buttons for bfing and a little cedar wood cat. Second time - nothing at the time but a beautiful silver necklace when we went on holiday to Scotland 6 weeks later. DS2 - a huuuuge bunch of lilies.

We were never in the money so diamonds and the like were out.

Greenmantle pretty much summed up my experience! Nothing for DD, followed by mother's day a couple of weeks later - Nowt for that! DC 2 due in 3 1/2 weeks, not holding my breath on that one, either!
Still, he's agreed to hiring a cleaner this time round so that's probably the best gift, ever. (sad, aren't I?!) :o

I got a bunch of flowers

It never occured to me that people get fancy stuff like jewelery before I read about it on here.

No, i never got anything when i had DS3. And it was my birthday too.

I got a baby :)

My mother had a ring from my father for each of us (which she still wears), which I think is lovely, and as a child I used to love seeing "my ring" on her hand.

I would love it if DH does the same for me - I'm not expecting Tiffany or Boodles (although obviously that would be nice!) but something would be lovely. The only problem is that my wedding ring and engagement ring are platinum, which means I can't wear any softer metal next to them as it'll get worn away - I'd prefer have a ring to wear on the same finger and platinum doesn't come cheap, especially with all the other baby stuff we'll need... I may end up with something out of a cracker!

I did get an eternity ring. I've been told this time though that there is no tradition for a second child so I'll be getting zip!!

Got nothing at the time for any of the three births.

However, I had to have a ring cut off when pg with DD1 (I'd had it for years, my parents had given me it when I was a teenager). The Christmas after DD2 was born, DH took me to a v expensive jeweller and told me to choose a new ring to replace the broken one (after we'd established that it would cost more than the ring was worth to repair it).

The shine was taken off the experience when he realised he had left his wallet at home and I had to use my own card to pay for it

Didn't get anything for either birth.

No nothing, but I do beleive in heirlooms so I bought rings with the names engraved inside, myself. DH was always an unimaginative tightwad!

Did not get anything material from DH after any of the Dcs birth. I have not even thought about it because I came out of hospital with beautiful children and an extatic DH, there was nothing more I wanted!

same as gorionine, getting a present never crossed my mind!

It never crossed my mind to expect a present.

yes I got a gorgeous 1.5 carat trilogy diamond necklace set in white gold from H. I had mentioned I had nothing to wear jewelery wise for our wedding day (booked for 12 months later) so he got me this as a pressie but to wear on our wedding day too :)

My v unromantic and undemonstrative DH brought me flowers. I was so surprised and chuffed! Hoping for the same again in a few weeks.

I didn't get anything, but apparently lots of people do, it even has a wiki page!

Dh gave me a beautiful necklace after ds1 and ratings that matched after ds2. I didn't ask for them at all - I think he got the idea from my dad giving my mum jewellery after having me and my siblings, but I wasn't expecting it at all, and it was such a lovely surprise.

It was the nicest necklace (possibly the only necklace) that he's ever bought me and i was amazed at how he had got just such a beautiful one.

I remember people getting flamed on here before for getting gifts and people saying that you shouldn't expect anything as you get a baby - totally agree, but one of the reasons I loved it so much was because it was unexpected. Very romantic at a very emotional time.

Earrings not ratings.