present for you after a birth from dad

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I'm due to have my second DS in May.
First time around I didn't get anything. No flowers nothing, partly because I didn't ask for anything and we didn't have much money especially when you consider all the things that you have to buy for baby, and mums generally now come in last!

I was watching an episode of Antiques Roadshow a few weeks ago and a woman brought in a beautiful necklace that her husband had given her after the birth of their third child. It got me thinking what a lovely gift to pass on in years to come.

Did you receive a gift? would you like to? Or is this me being sad and hoping that being pregnant and "giving" him two sons is worth celebrating?

I got a gold locket on a chain for ds1 and a gold bracelet for ds2.

Tbh it was v. much my idea to be given expensive proper (as a pose to my usual costume) jewelery to commemorate the occasion. Dh was happy to go along w. it and chose the pieces but would never have thought of getting me anything otherwise, not even a bunch of flowers.

I treasure both pieces for their associations, bit like my engagement and wedding ring really. They get worn for high days and weddings.

Apparently a ring given after the birth of a baby is sometimes referred to as a "pushing ring". Romantic innit?

PS3 for our second baby, he didn't think a bunch of flowers was going to cut it halfway through labour! You may say it was his excuse to get one for himself, but I'm the only one who plays it

I got a piece of jewelery for each of our DH. My mum told my non-British DH that its an important English tradition!

Dh bought me flowers both times but nothing else, and I didn't expect anything, and I am sure it never occurred to him to buy me anything.

I think this is a fairly new concept, tbh.

for each of our DC of course I meant.

It can't be that new, bibbitybobbityhat - my father bought a ring for my mother when each of my brother and I were born and I am 30!

Some of the most amusing threads I have seen on Mumsnet involve questions about "pushing presents" and whether it is reasonable to expect, for eg., a £1500 Tiffany diamond ring or, perhaps, a Chanel purse as a symbol of gratitude in the delivery suite. Pmsl.

I would have been really offended if dh had given me a present for giving birth.

I think it is a really personal thing as my best friend got a very expensive gift and it really mattered to her that she did, even though money was tight.

It just didn't seem appropriate to me. I was simply relieved to have a healthy baby and to still be relatively intact myself.

I think that the healthy baby is the present.

Don't like the phrase 'push present' but offended was probably the last word on my mind when dh gave me the gift. It was really lovely of him.

Not quite sure how you could be offended by it really. Unless you go along the lines of thinking that people think they are somehow entitled to a gift.

Think it's fairly obvious that the baby is the best thing, but I can't see why people get so cross about men giving a gift

I got a really lovely baby.

After having dd, my grandmother gave me the ring that she had as a present from my grandfather when she had her dd 60yrs ago. It is my most prized possession. My grandad died 10 years ago and always said it would be mine one day. It was quite fitting that both my grandma and I received it when we had our pfbs, both girls, 60yrs apart.

It was our first wedding anniversary a few days after DS was born, and DH gave me eternity ring, and I gave him a book (special meaning for DH). Obviously we had a lovely baby too, etc etc, but clearly we are more grasping types!

My dh bought me some cookies from tesco after I had ds1. They were yummy. My sil got an eternity ring although she organised it herself.

Due any day now and not expecting anything. I would love for dh to think of something nice on his own but he never would.

I got nothing. Not even a card or a balloon. Something would have been nice tbh.

I thought that it was tradition that you get an eternity ring on the birth of your first baby but DH and I weren't in a financial position to afford it, but I was kind of hoping he would surprise me. He didn't.

He did say he would get me one if our first was a girl (becuase he was so convinced it was a boy and he knew he wouldn't have to get it, he was right).

I did say that it would be nice this time as we are unlikely to have anymore. I don't see it as a 'pushing present' but a nice piece of jewellery (and not an expensive one) to commemorate the birth of my children that I can pass on in years to come.

I don't see anything wrong with it.

I received a silver teddy bear charm for my charm bracelet (Tiffany). For my recent birthday my DD (11mths) "bought" me a silver heart charm with "Mum" on it for the same bracelet.

ex husband bought me very lovely diamond earrings when ds1 born which i hadn't expected and appreciated. 2nd husband didn't buy me anything when ds2 and dd born, but it simply wouldn't have occurred to him to do it. I think it's quite a nice thing to do, but wasn't offended that he didn't as he's generally pretty rubbish at presents to be honest (makes up for it in other ways!)

I have a slim diamond wedding band and would like to have another band with our DC name engraved inside it and the DOB. But I am willing to pay for this myself. DH doesn't like the idea at all...!

Saying that quite fancy a pair of diamonds earings, half a carat should do it...!!! In my dreams [bsad]

I think he's so focused on how we'll make ends meet with all of our new baby things, a new flat, etc, and he's probably as knackered as I am seeing as I keep him up all night with my pregnancy snoring, that I don't expect any gifts other than a chubby baby boy! :)

Hadn't heard of birth gifts from DH, but could imagine our mums giving us a keepsake (my grandmother gave me a Persian carpet when I was born which is still with me). I was expecting pregnancy surprises from DH, as friends told me stories of hubbies treating for pregnancy masseuses, babymoons, and other nice gestures to take the stress off. Alas, no gifts (though he's been VERY helpful with everything and sometimes carrying much of the weight around here that I feel like I could give HIM a gift, like a chubby baby boy!) :)

I want something to commemorate the event. But money is tight so DH is probably going to get me an eternity ring, but with semi-precious stones, not diamonds. That's okay with me. It's lovely, reasonably priced and I can keep it forever.

I got him a small gift when we found out I was pregnant.

hahaha, I am going to show this to my DP. I told him about this before DS1 was born and he really didn;t have a clue so got me ...a cake stand!.. now, yes, I had seen it in a shop and admired it, but its hardly the right kind of thing for having given birth to your son and heir. Am now expecting DD and and he has been given much clearer instructions - shiny, sparkly etc. Also, in my case its not a pushing present but being cut open and sewn back together present so anyone who says it doesn't count if you have a CS can piss off!

DH got me a beautiful bangle that I wear everyday. It has 2 diamonds on, 1 representing him, and one representing DS.
:)

I got my wedding ring.

I had taken it off and left it in the bedside cabinet at the later stages of pregnancy due to swollen fingers.

I thought it was so sweet of DH to think about it and bring it along to the hospital.