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Childbirth

Share experiences and get support around labour, birth and recovery.

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present for you after a birth from dad

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happywheezer · 24/01/2011 14:02

I'm due to have my second DS in May.
First time around I didn't get anything. No flowers nothing, partly because I didn't ask for anything and we didn't have much money especially when you consider all the things that you have to buy for baby, and mums generally now come in last!

I was watching an episode of Antiques Roadshow a few weeks ago and a woman brought in a beautiful necklace that her husband had given her after the birth of their third child. It got me thinking what a lovely gift to pass on in years to come.

Did you receive a gift? would you like to? Or is this me being sad and hoping that being pregnant and "giving" him two sons is worth celebrating?

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amistillsexy · 26/01/2011 18:53

I had a mc a couple of years after having ds1. Dh had a ring made with a birthstone for ds1 and one for the lost baby. Later, he had more stones added for ds2 and ds3. I love it .

maxpower · 26/01/2011 20:12

I got nothing after having DD (despite it being a totally horrific experince - you might have thought DH would have got me something to cheer me up if nothing else ). However, when I had DS (5 weeks ago) the next morning, he arrived at the hospital with a beautiful memory bracelet for me that he and DD had chosen together. It was a lovely surprise, totally unexpected!

maxpower · 26/01/2011 20:13

amistillsexy what a lovely and precious gift that must have been

amistillsexy · 26/01/2011 23:36

Yes it was. He has his moments, I have to admit!
And your bracelet will have such special meaning since your DD helped choose it. That is so nice. I dread to think what my boys would choose for me given a chance- it would probably have Playmobil hanging from it in any case!

cardamomginger · 27/01/2011 11:54

was given a budget to choose some jewellery. chose a pearl pendant and matching earrings.

Squitten · 27/01/2011 12:06

I got my eternity ring after DS1 was born but I would have had that off him anyway, baby or no! :)

Nothing after DS2 and didn't occur to me before reading this...

MyMamaToldMe · 27/01/2011 12:18

My DH bought me an eternity ring after DD was born, which I say is DD's ring (it will be one day). If I have another DC, and if lucky enough to receive another jewellery based gift, it would be for that DC one day too.

mannicmummyhavinaiccy · 27/01/2011 13:43

I wish! But concidering my birthday was a few weeks ago and got squat, I'd have a heart attack if dp brought me so much as a twix!

spidookly · 27/01/2011 13:52

What is an eternity ring?

PenguinsMummy · 27/01/2011 14:03

I got a 5 diamond eternity ring after DD1 and a trilogy diamond necklace after DD2.

DD3 due in April

nannyl · 27/01/2011 14:09

not expecting anything when i have our baby

it had never even crossed my mind that some people even do get presents

the best present oh can give me is to look after me for a few days while i recover!

Honeybee79 · 27/01/2011 18:59

People in my NCT group were going on about "push presents". I found it a bit distasteful to be honest - "give" a man a child and expect a diamond eternity ring.

Didn't expect anything. Got a healthy baby and a DH who has been a massive help and support - cooking, cleaning, hugging, reassuring. That's enough for me!

Chaotica · 27/01/2011 19:06

I'm another one who got nothing except a baby (and didn't expect anything else either). Why would DP buy me something?

cardamomginger · 27/01/2011 21:27

Penguin - earrings this time???

MarionCole · 27/01/2011 21:31

Sorry but I find the idea of a present from DH for giving birth extremely patronising and the whole idea makes me feel very uncomfortable.

I accept that I'm in the minority though

Laursapoops · 27/01/2011 21:34

Distasteful? To each their own I think. DP returned to hospital with balloons and flowers, and gave me a lovely watch a few weeks later. I didn't expect it, but I think it's a lovely thing to do, as let's face it, you've gone through 9 months of pregnancy and then labour to bring their child into the world.

yousankmybattleship · 27/01/2011 21:37

Never occured to me to expect a present. I had a gorgeous baby. Why should DH buy me a present anyway it was a joint venture!

Trebuchet · 27/01/2011 21:40

Got beautiful ring, emerald-cut Ruby with diamond shoulders, very art deco. I waited til after ds2 so I could get something really nice rather than two smaller things.(trad in dh family)

zipzap · 27/01/2011 23:55

DH's getting better at presents but just before ds1 was born he was very, very ill (thought I was going to end up a widow 3 days before my due date). He was discharged from hospital the day I was induced, ds1 was born less than 24 hours later and amazingly he was there for the birth (not often the obstetrician is more worried about the dad keeling over than the mum!)

best thing was finally all getting home together and seeing him have his first proper cuddle with ds1 and the little milestones along the way - took him over a month before he could pick him up but now they are both really close which is lovely to see.

and dh keeps saying he wants to buy me a nice necklace but doesn't want to choose it as I'm too fussy so there's hope yet...

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