I had my baby in July 09. Natural delivery, but had epidural during labour. Midwife told me I had a minor tear and they're going to leave it to heal, so didn't stitch it.
That was the last time I was checked.
After 6 a couple of months my DH and I tried to, well, you know! (sorry, too shy!) but it was extremely painful for me, so we had to stop.
We tried again a couple of months later, but it was painful again, so I went and saw my GP. She said it's probably because of hormones caused by breast feeding, nothing to worry about and suggested that we use lubricant.
We tried, it didn't work.
Today I went to see her again and she checked me down there and said she thinks the tear should have been stitched and I may need to have an operation to fix it :(
I can't explain how upset I am now. This situation has put a heavy burden to my relationship and now I learn that it's not me, it's because of some idiots didn't do their job properly!
I'm also terrified of having an operation. Did anyone had similar experience? How do they fix a perineal tear 14 months after the birth?
Thanks for reading and thanks in advance for your help!