Rear ended someone and im so worried and scared

[missymoomel]

I was driving down a country lane one that I have been driving everyday since last year, the road is 60 I was doing about 50, the csr infront of me stopped suddenly because the car infront of him stopped suddenly and as soon as I saw his break lights I pushed my foot so hard on the break but the car didn't slow down in time and I hit the back of the car very hard, my car is damaged and will be a write off, there was a lady passanger in the back of the car and she was injured she hurt her neck and couldn't move it properly, the ambulance and police came, did a breathalyser which was 0, took my details ans said they would be in touch if they needed anything else.But im feeling so guilty for the women they took her to hospital to be assessed she got out of thr car with help ans they put her in the ambulance with a red box thing round her head, I cant sleep properly or eat much and I just keep replying over and over in my mind , im so worried about her ans I dont even know how she is, and I dont know what's going to happen to me with the police, and im also scared to drive again

Oh, download and play Tetris this evening. Studies have shown it stops PTSD developing after you have been through something traumatic

Thankyou, yes I could try and get my friend to call on my behalf to rest my mind that she is okay, because at the moment that's all im thinking about.I went to work today and i was doing my work but my mind was elsewhere and I was sonquiet which I guess is normal, but yeah i need to try and move on but wirh me if i have something on my mind i need to talk about it which is why I posted on here to get some clarity/ confort/opinions etc.I will try ans be kind to myself moving forward, I also have other things on my mind aswell and its just to much.But yes i will tey and love myself again x

Okay I will try that tonight I need to be up at 5am for work as i need to get the bus but I cant sleep at the moment

Yeah i know , just need to try and move on and learn from this and be at the most carful I can be now

Feeling guilt, anxiety and remorse is how we learn to be better people. At least you’re more likely to leave the correct stopping distance next time.

Your reaction is understandable and shoes the kind of person you are but you need to forgive yourself.

It wasn't intentional.
No drink.
Ni drugs.
No speeding.
No mobile phone use.
No wrecklessness.

I think it's normal to think your brakes didn't react enough. The trauma and fear will distort it in your head.

You did everything you could to prevent it at the time.

As car accidents go, it could have been a lot worst so in the overall scheme of things this is one that you have to forgive yourself.

There's nothing to judge for you do stop judging yourself.

Look, put things in perspective! No one was seriously injure and your insurance will pay up. If you are done for driving without due care and attention it will be fairly low level. I'll be fine, stop worrying😉

Yes your right i most definitely will be more careful

But in dont know if her injuries are bad or not , I kmow but I cant feeling worried

You are probably still in shock. Try and take it easy for the next day or so.

I know how you feel OP, and although you think it won’t, it WILL pass. I was on a mini roundabout and thought a bus wasn’t going to stop, so I steered to get out the way and couldn’t correct it in time to leave the roundabout. I ended up driving over the little island at the exit and took out a bollard and one of those posts that lights the signs up.

For over a week I felt like public enemy no1, when in reality the only feelings people had towards me were care and concern. I couldn’t stop thinking that there could have been children or others on the island when I drove over it.

It’s a horrible thing to happen, but if you learn from it, it will pass. Hope you manage to sleep xx

I rear ended someone on dual carriageway. It was my fault from an insurance POV.

it happened because someone pulled out unexpectedly to overtake a tractor (rural!!)

Anway the car I was driving was written off, insurance dealt with it all, ny family still take the piss and I found out years later there had been a personal injury claim by the other driver.

However, it took my ages to feel confident driving again and I still get twitchy about stopping distances and so many people don’t drive safely. I’d really try to get back in a familiar car and drive. At the time this accident happened I didn’t have a car (I don’t need one as I live in the middle of a city with great public transport) and was using zip cars on the odd ocassion I did need one. Getting regular use of a familiar car made a huge difference and I’m very grateful to my friend who facilitated this

Oh bless you that must of been horrible.And im glad no one was injured, I think I could get over it but the fact the women got injured thats what I cant get over, its the not knowing how she is that's upsetting me .But there isn't anything I can do but just pray she is okay and maybe hopefully reaches oit to me, but I dont think she will.And another thing I csnt get over is how people now see me at a driver I.e friends and family they will all think diffrent of me now , thankyou im feeling so tired but I just csnt switch off right now x

Oh no its horrible isn't when something like this happens, was the person injured at the time thrn, how did you find out gears later the person made a injury claim, i definitely think this is what's going to happen to me too, Yeah im going to have to rent a car until we dind another one, itd going to be scary as most of the time I drive alone unless im dropping the husband at work and I will have to go past that spot everyday i don't know when I will get in a car next hopefully in the next few days or week

Oh no its horrible isn't when something like this happens, was the person injured at the time thrn, how did you find out gears later the person made a injury claim, i definitely think this is what's going to happen to me too, Yeah im going to have to rent a car until we dind another one, itd going to be scary as most of the time I drive alone unless im dropping the husband at work and I will have to go past that spot everyday i don't know when I will get in a car next hopefully in the next few days or week

Aren't you covered by insurance? Have you informed the insurance company?

Of course I've informed the insurance company and made a claim,

Helpful.

Ok so you had an accident and its your fault. It's not unheard of, Ive had one of those too.

The passenger will be treated and will be paid compensation by your insurer.

The cars will be sorted by your insurer. You will pay the excess, job done.

I hope you are not injured.

Police will do nothing.

Don't let it stop you driving, just take the learning from it. Everything will be sorted.

Im not injured just emotionally and mentally, just need to find another car now which might take a while i think.Thankyou

I just thought I would come back and check in on you today cuz I know you've been quite upset about what happened.

That's very kind of you, I've just got up for work im so tired , but I need to go to work and then when I finish later will just come home and relax

Hi op, hope you got a bit of sleep. I used to work in a rural area and once had to slam on when someone came round a blind bend. I wasn't going fast but my car continued to move as there was mud and stones on the road. Luckily I didn't hit them but I'm wondering if something like this could have happened to you?
On another note, someone went out into the back of me when I was at a set of lights. There was more damage to his car but he would not acknowledge that he had hit my car. I ended up having to take pictures and leave but I called 101 to do a welfare check as he seemed so confused They refused and told me to contact my insurance, so I don't think you have anything to worry about with the police.
And I second the playing Tetris. The eye movement helps reprogram how the brain stores trumatic memories.

If you had read OP’s posts you would see that she read zero when breathalysed.

Oh bless you yeah uts just awful when something like this happens, the police were okay but not extremely mad at me, they have proberly seen much worse and drivers who have no compassion for what they have done, or have been on drugs of drinking.Yeah I will try the tetris tonight