Is anger normal after a breast cancer diagnosis and recent bereavement?

[Maisy7]

I had my breast cancer confirmed on Thursday....10th
Out of nowhere I was so angry last night - it was horrible!
Emotions all over the place....is this normal?
I feel terrible....I had a go at my Mum on text...asking her to give me space to let it all sink in. I only lost my Dad to cancer a few months ago...and think I'm not over that yet, and it's brought up alot of bad feeling.
I've apologised to her...but feel awful!
Just wanted to share this somewhere safe....

Yes. Perfectly normal. It is the shock and a bit like your body has let you down. I found after my diagnosis dealing with others’ reactions is hard. People hear cancer and immediately jump to certain conclusions. You will feel more settled once you have your treatment plan. Do not google too much. Go for lots of walks to dissipate the cortisol. I am 9 years all clear now. Thank heavens for a good pathologist and surgeon. I didn’t need chemo, fortunately . Your emotions will be all over the place for quite some time even when you are out the other side of it all. You don’t have to tell everyone. You just do you.

Oh Maisy! So sorry you are feeling angry, I expect it's completely normal- you've had a massive shock and you've lost your dad too!
I hope you are feeling better now and starting to get your head straight.
Sending love, sausages (from the other thread) xx

Awww 🥰 @Sausages123456 Thank you!
yes feeling less angry, more all over the place!!
I too am on another thread, but tbh all the support is much appreciated.
Hope you are doing great.

I’ve got lots to sort and process before Lumpectomy, 5 weeks away.

Going to prehab my heart out!!

Yes, absolutely normal. Just one of those things happening can make you feel anger so both, together, I think your reaction is totally normal. I know when DH was told he had cancer not long after having lost his dad he had spells where he was angry too. Good luck with your treatment, I hope it is kind to you.

Yes, completely normal.

Very normal. I found “The Complete Guide to Breast Cancer” really helpful in the first few weeks.