My husband has cancer

[catherinewales]

Just that. He's 45 and he is stage 4. I am heartbroken. He's my absolute life. Yes we have our ups and downs like everyone but we've got through so much together. I just don't know how we'll get through this. It's going to be the hardest time ever but I'll be by his side every single step of the way. We've got 2 young kids who aren't coping so well but are trying to cope.

I'm so sorry to read this OP. Devastating news. I would be so upset if this happened. I'm so sorry for your children too.

Is there any chance at all he may be able to fight this?

No advice but didn’t want to read and leave. I’m sorry this is happening. Sending you a virtual hug. I’m sure someone with useful experience will be along soon.

Wishing you every strength in this shittiest of times. I don’t know what to write, but keep posting on here for an ear and support x

I'm so sorry. Do you plan in place or at you at the first stages before options are given? Tell us as much or as little as you want.

Are there treatments available for him to try? So sorry! You must be heartbroken but I hope there’s still a chance he can get through it

They are going for a cure but he doesn't think he's strong enough. It's stomach so this is going to be life changing if he survives it. They want to do chemo surgery chemo. The surgery is going to be 12 hours and he may not have a stomach at the end of it xx

Just can't find the right words, but just want to say I am very sorry and send virtual hug.

He can survive this. Have faith.

OP again I'm so sorry. I will be thinking of you guys. Xx

So sorry OP x

So sorry. This is really tough.

We don't know much. We got told end of jan. Not seen a doctor at all. Got told by a specialist nurse he has cancer. We phone her when we need anything. He needs another test which isn't for another week. They need to know how much tissue it's gone through to hopefully shrink it and then operate. We haven't officially been told by a doctor that he'll have chemo surgery chemo but that's what the nurse seems to think he'll do. We're also waiting on an appointment with the surgeons. The NHS is so slow. Nothing is rushed at all. We asked about going private but we've been told not to as you have to be referred back to the NHS then they have to do their own tests.

@catherinewales Im so so sorry to hear this

End of Jan? We are just past the middle of March

Thank you everyone for being so nice. I didn't think anyone would see this. Know your messages of love and thoughts means so much to me. Don't take anything for granted, your life can change in an instant. You have no idea what is round the corner. I never thought this would happen to us xx

Oh OP that’s awful news. I currently have cancer and it’s just shit I know. There is a support thread that might help you - I’ll try and link it.

Yes was told the end of jan. Keeps having to have more tests. A specialist nurse told us after he had a camera. He's had a ct scan, camera, investigation for another on going problem that could have put a stop to starting chemo, then a pet scan, then another test after they found something on the pet scan but that turned out to be nothing. Now he's got to get another camera next week to see how many layers of tissue it has gone through.

So sorry 😔 🌺

I think I've found it. I'm so sorry you're going through this. How are you? Sending you big hugs xx

My friend’s elderly father had stomach cancer and had to have it removed, with a small one made in its place. Ten years later he’s still going strong, he’s stretched out the new stomach so he can live normally again (albeit less portions).

My mum had cancer years ago so I know all too well how it feels like a death sentence, you immediately think the worst. She’s also still here.

Im hoping that your husband has the surgery and a few years down the line you’ll both look back at this time and it’ll feel like a distant nightmare. Cancer doesn’t always mean the worst, so please have some hope (although I know you’re bound to fear the worst).

Feeling for you all. Wishing you all the strength.

The McMillan helpline is really good, experienced nurses talk you through anything that is worrying you.

I'm so sorry about your DH. You can live without a stomach, do you know what kind of cancer it is?

A friend of mine had stomsch cancer about 15 years ago. She was given 3 months. Saw another consultant. Had a groundbreaking operation. She is still here and well. There is hope xx

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/life_limiting_illness/4729740-the-storm-part-3

yeah am ok, I have a rare cancer and chemo didn’t work, surgery isn’t possible so immunotherapy it is. It’s harder for my family to be honest. I just keep jogging along making the most of every day as best I can. Take care of yourselves x

We know it's the bottom of his oesophagus and top of his stomach. We've been told oesophagus and then stomach but also been told it's gastro oesophagus junction. The last one sounds more like it. It's in the tissue. It's in only the one place and it hasn't spread and it was only there for 2 months as of the end of jan now it's another 7 weeks on and he's getting worse and he's still not seen a doctor.

That is so frustrating about foregoing private care, mix and match would benefit you and take weight off the NHS. Who told you this info? Very sorry about dh x