well, that was sudden...

[CanadianJohn]

My wife, age 82, has been very lethargic for a few months, doesn't want to eat, sleeps a lot, no energy, etc.

On Sunday, she was okay, more or less, and we did a quick grocery shop.
On Monday, she was distinctly unwell, and we went to ER.
On Wednesday, she was moved to the cancer floor.
On Thursday, we were advised her cancer is terminal, and she has only a few months to live.

The children (all adults) are in shock. As am I, I suppose. She will be coming home as soon as the hospital finish all their tests, and I have to arrange palliative care, etc. Lots of things... making a bedroom downstairs, getting a walk-in shower installed.

Wow, my world has changed really quickly...

I'm so very sorry for your loss

I'm sorry to hear that John. Sincere condolences to you all. 💐

Sending thoughts to you John 💐

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I'm so sorry, that must be such a shock.

I'm so sorry for your loss John. It's great that she was at home, and not in pain. I hope that you have people around you, that can support you at this difficult time.

So some people have taken it upon themselves to make nasty comments! Obviously I cannot see them, but I can't bear the C word, never written it, never mind saying it.

Sorry for your loss of Pamela. Look after yourself John.

I am thinking of you. This is so very hard, and I am sorry. I am glad that Pamela was not in any pain. Please take care of yourself.

No. One troll did, and the comments were swiftly deleted. The thread is a supportive one.

I'm so sorry to read this. Sending you love.

I'm so very sorry for your loss John 🙏🏽

Praying for you, Pamela and your children xxx

I’m sorry for your loss John. Sending deepest sympathies 💐

That's very sad news.

My grandmother died in a similar way, and although she's sorely missed, in hindsight it was a good way to go - minimal pain, chance for family to say goodbye but without years of unpleasant decline.

I'm so very sorry for your loss @CanadianJohn

RIP Pamela

I've asked MNHQ if they can remove the very offensive username on the deleted troll posts.

We had a similar journey for DFIL - cutting grass Thursday night, GP visit Fri am who said go straight to hospital for tests who kept him in, by Fri pm had cancer dx, he came home for a short while the following week but was mostly in hospital or hospice until he died 6 weeks later. 3 adult DCs, 1 lived next door but both others a couple of hours away with family/FT jobs etc.

I am sorry for your loss, but it is good to hear that Pamela had no pain in her journey.

Thank goodness there was no pain - what a blessing. But what a shock for you all with it happening so quickly.

Thinking of you and your family, John.

There is no right or wrong with grief. It is a complicated thing that can bring many mixed emotions, sometimes numbness and sometimes feelings that hit you like a freight train.

Take good care of yourself now and over the coming months, and be very kind to yourself. Take things a day or even an hour at a time if you need to.

I am so sorry for your loss 💐

So very sorry.

My deepest sympathy xx

I'm so sorry. You must be shellshocked. 💐

I'm very sorry to hear that you've lost Pamela.

I'm so sorry for your loss