The aftermath !

[brassband]

After many many years of my DD being bullied and excluded by 3 or the other 5 girls in her class , we withdrew her from the school and sent her elsewhere.
What I didn't count on was the reaction of others.The teachers at her school say they feel shocke ,hurt and affronted by our decision (even though our other children are staying at the same school).I just feel it is a bit precious of them to be turning this into something about themselves.It is my poor little girl who has been so unhappy that the GP said we must move her.I have not named the bullies to anyone apart from the teaching staff because this is a small village and I don't want to cause bad feeling.But the bullies' parents have stopped speaking to us too.

The main thing is that you did what was best for your daughter.

It sounds like the teachers are in denial about their own shortcomings to deal with the bullying properly.

If the kids are bullies, I am sure you can definately live without ever speaking to the parents ever again.

I get the sense that you, quite rightly, feel disappointed by the teachers and the bullys parents, for not doing more or taking charge of the kids.

It is a pisser when no one listens or acts when something needs to be done, then act like a wounded rabit when you do something about it.

Your daughter is happy, you have been a great parent. All the rest is totally irrelevent.

Onward and upward.

You must be so disappointed in the teachers - how unprofessional! To place themselves at the centre of a situation which is so not about them, it is about your child and the other children who have been bullying her. It is so shocking that despite all the anti bullying weeks, awareness raising charities etc, schools still very frequently deal with it so badly.
You did totally the right thing - though if the teachers are so self obsessed - have you done the right thing leaving your other kids there?

I think you are very brave to take the action you did.
I too have experienced the utter frustration when no one understands! being excluded is so hurtful for our littleones.
Luckily my DS has now got a good group of friends and his confidence is returning. But it has taken 3 years. I hope your DD is happy in her new school.
The other parents should feel ashamed (but probably don`t) as in our case I decided not to speak to the other mother who verbally abused me. Our mutual friend thinks it is childish, possibly she is right. But I do not want her to think she is forgiven. Social discomfort aside I prefer no contact with her. Our families come first.