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DS suffering a bit - not sure about the school's response

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Quattrocento · 27/02/2009 10:05

DS is in Year 4. He's suffered some persistent low grade bullying from a boy at his school since year 3.

The incidents include kicking, shoving, threatening etc. DS never initiates and never fights back.

There was an incident that was witnessed in Year 3 where DS was pushed over very violently resulting in a bloody face and thumb. The school wrote to the boys parents who were allegedly "mortified".

The situation hasn't changed. DS stuck a note in the form worry box saying that he was worried about being hurt by this boy, and his teacher told me that the other boy was very physical and that he thought bullying was too strong a word for what was going on.

I only found out about the worry box note this week, although it happened in September. I'm feeling very upset that DS felt isolated and despite telling us repeatedly about kicks/shoves etc we haven't been doing enough to help.

Anyhow on Wednesday he received a flying kick in the stomach resulting in bruising.

I'm really upset about this. How can the school just be minimising and trivialising repeated instances of physical harm? I've phoned the Head - awaiting response.

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cocolepew · 28/02/2009 09:58

Well it looks like he's not just picking on your DS! Rather than restricted playtime I would prefer he was shadowed by a member of staff. He obviously isn't bothered by being told of by the Head or he was, but chose not to hit your Ds, thinking he'd be in more trouble for that?

Personally I would give it a few days next week, make sure your DS knows he has to tell you anytime this boy does something. There is a chance he will leave DS alone now. The fact that the school has mentioned exclusion is, IMO, a big step.

Keep in contact with the head, maybe meet again on Wednesday to either report ongoing trouble or that it has stopped.

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