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Advice needed for DD

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kkkkkkold · 08/07/2025 22:06

Hi everyone.

We really need some advice. Very concerned parents here…

We found out recently that our daughter has been misappropriated touched by boys at our nursery. They are all 4 years old. Luckily it was a short incident and she wasn’t hurt physically. She was quite upset after the incident and was crying. We were shocked to have found this out and are worried that this can happen again. The most frustrating thing is that she will be going to reception with one of these boys in September.

What should we do from here?

  1. How can we help our DD better protect herself? We are worried that in a new school environment she wouldn’t feel comfortable telling an adult if such things happen again.

  2. Our believe is that she should be separated from this kid at the new school (ie separate classes) but we are facing some pushback from the school which cites logistical issues. Are we being unreasonable? What should we do?

  3. How should we speak to the parents of the boy? Is there anything we can do to reduce the likelihood of this incident repeating? It would appear that the boy has a bit of a history of bad behaviour.

Any advice would be much appreciated.

Thank you.

OP posts:
24Dogcuddler · 08/07/2025 22:26

I’m sorry this has happened to your DD.
The Nursery staff should be investigating and speaking to the parents. It is a safeguarding incident for both children.
I wouldn’t speak to the parents yourselves.
Are school staff aware of the incident and have they confirmed details with Nursery staff?
To help and support your daughter the NSPCC have their Pants materials that you could use.

https://www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe/support-for-parents/pants-underwear-rule/

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