Excluded from a evening out

[Mybadcat]

So I was invited to a group gathering - by someone I thought was a friend- should I be offended by this message

Hiya love, hope you are good 🥰. Ok so i’ve messed up 😫 i totally forgot to tell Paula (she has booked everything) that you might be coming in the 5th. It was only yesterday when you texted and i still forgot to text Paula . It’s been really stressful for her organising it all. You are welcome to join us all for drinks after our meal about 6/7 on that saturday.

I would give her the benefit of the doubt on this occasion, turn up for the drinks and just laugh it off.

So, someone invited you to a meal but didn't actually tell the person who was organising/booking it, so you were not invited in first instance? Is this a separate group of friends that your not that close to to not have had an invite at the start of the booking/planning stage? Do you know Paula? Can't you message her and say "so and so said your going out on thai date and asked me to come- ill phone and book on to save you amending the booking?"

Ultimately though your "friend" sounds like a flake

I'd be a bit annoyed but I wouldn't take it personally.

Why would you be offended? Were you expecting to go to the meal? What sort of gathering was it meant to be?

Why have you put this in the bullying section?

yeah i wouldn't bother to be honest.

Without any backstory I’d assume the person had genuinely messed up and maybe the booking cannot be amended i.e they’ve only got a table for 6 and can’t add a 7th.

Obviously you know these people and what ‘Paula’ is like. Your friend hasn’t said don’t come at all, so it doesn’t sound like a total snub.

It sounds like it could be an honest mistake. If you think of them as a friend, best thing is to clear this with them

How is this bullying?

Sounds like it's just a mistake, don't overthink it