Dd wet herself because 2 girls wouldn't let her into the toilet

[Fisharefriendsnotfood]

Dd is in reception. She came home last week in school knickers and with her PE shorts and doodles in a bag. Her teacher told dh at pick up that she was having fun in PE and left it too late to get to the toilet so had an accident.

Dd hasn't had an accident like tht in over a year but she didn't seem upset or anything so I just thought it was one of those things. Today, out of the blue, she told dh that she had her accident at school because 2 year one girls wouldn't allow her in to the toilet. She told us their names. She also said she told the teacher.

What should I do? Dd is my eldest and we haven't had another issue with the school yet. Should I talk to teacher on the morning or leave it until Wednesday when we have parent teacher evening? I'm also annoyed if dd did tell the teacher about the girls that it wasn't explained to dh.

Advice on how to handle this Please?

I would take the story with a pinch of salt.

'Two girls wouldn't let me in' could be 'two girls were in the toilet when I got there (having left it too late) and so I wet myself as I didn't get there in time'

If you are worried I would mention it to the teacher at parent evening, explain what dd has told you. Tbh even if two girls were being silly in the toilet your dd must have been desperate for the loo if she couldn't wait a couple of mins. My dd was a nightmare in reception for doing this. DS (8yrs) still wriggles until the last minute! Until weds I'd emphasise to your dd that she must go as soon as she needs it. The trouble with reception is there are always more fun things to do than going to the toilet

Really? She said they were being mean.. She hasn't come home with any similar takes so I did believe her

I would go and talk to the teacher about it personally. If my dd (also in reception), said this, I would ask her a few times (at different times) to see if her story is straight or its changed slightly. And if it hadn't I would definitely go say something.

I'd say something in the morning as well, not wait until wednesday.

I brought it up twice today and got the same information each time.

I'd speak to the teacher then. The teacher will have a better idea of what the Y2 girls are like which will help.

Yes, tomorrow not Wednesday. No point in dragging it out.

Tell the teacher, definitely. She or he williknow what to do. It can't be ignored. The girls might have been "momentarily" malicious or they might be generally malicious but it's more likely the former. Tell your daughter if it happens again to shout loudly "stop bullying me" to shock them.

Definitely say something then. And say you'd like feedback at the end of the day about how they have dealt with the problem.

This happened to me in reception. I wasn't allowed in because I was a 'boy', apparently. I was kept out until the bell went and then couldn't hold it in until the next break. It is one of my earliest memories and what really sticks in my mind is that no one believed me. Not the teachers, not my parents.

So please believe her unless you have good reason not to.

I am with Flosshilde on this one

I'm with the others too - unless your DD is prone to exaggeration I would take what she says at face value and believe her.
Bear also in mind that friendships and fall outs happen frequently and usually blow over just as fast at this age.
Talk to the Teacher to try and get some handle on what might have happened and maybe run through some role play type conversations with your daughter to help her deal with this sort of thing. Even re-iterating speaking with a teacher/dinner lady if you're having a problem can help. You don't want her confidence to be knocked.

You have nothing to lose by bringing it up with the form teacher - in a non aggressive way. They will probably be interested and may have an idea of what has happened.

They also may have said she left it a little too late having reprimanded the year ones already.

I think at this age it is worth bringing up concerns to teachers, why not they are looking after your children during the school hours and you can therefore raise any issues you have

Is this the teacher your DD said she told?

I would talk to the teacher, definitely. If it's the teacher that DD has already told, I would be asking why we were told it was an accident, when it wasn't

Thanks everyone

I'll talk to the teacher tomorrow. Will update after

Spoke to the teacher this morning, with dd, and after gentle probing turns out the 2 girls were using the toilets which is why they wouldn't let dd on

Teacher was lovely, all sorted

Nasty little girls fancy them being on the toilet when LittleFish wanted to go!!

I'm glad it's all sorted now.

Soooo glad I didn't go in angry