Should I be worrying or not?

[dizzyem]

Just want some advice really from other mums out there.

DD1 started school in September and is getting on realy well . Prior to the October half term she used to come home and say a particular boy kept chasing her and then it progressed into being pulled off play equipment being pushed etc for about a week but then he was off and then half term arrived and it seemed to calm down between Nov & Xmas with the odd incident. Since Xmas, it seems to be happening again - first with the chasing and then the past 2 days he has kept poking her in the back when standing in line - the teacher did remove him and then today she said he had punched her in the tummy. I want to go and speak to the teacher but DH thinks its "just kids at school" and it will sort itself out.

I have told her to ignore the said boy, try not to run away from him in the hope that if he doesn't get a reaction from her then he'll stop but obviously not working. She does tell an adult but I also don't want her labelled for telling tales all the time. At the same time I don't want her to retaliate and get into trouble herself but perhaps she needs to I find myself thinking?

Am I over reacting?

Any advice welcomed please

He is pushing her and hitting her. Speak to the teacher. Any decent school should have a zero tolerance approach to bullying. He needs to be told that this kind of behaviour is unacceptable. As much for his own sake as your daughters.

She's being punched, pushed, tormented and chased by this boy

Please don't leave her to deal with this by herself

If she's unable to handle this (i.e. stand her ground and shove him back) then you must speak to the school about it, and make sure they deal with it appropriately before it escalates

Thanks folks- it is really what i though but didn't want to be seen as being over reacting. I just felt so angry in the car tonight when he said she said he had punched her in the tummy and couldn't believe he had done that to my DD

Yes, talk to the school. Do you know the parent? I've found that speaking to parents is the MOST effective way to stop behaviour like this.

Please please don't worry about her being labelled for telling tales - and don't ever suggest such a thing to her. This is how bullying escalates - a climate of silence.

And please don't be afraid to tell her to retaliate either.

She may well get told off - but it will send a very clear message to this boy that there are real consequences to his behaviour.

My DS is 14 - he is still being bullied every day at school. He has Aspergers. The school really aren't interested. Most schools won't deal effectively with what they term "low level discruption".

So - I asked for an appointment through a letter, teacher was on the phone by 10am - all credit to the school - and things seemed to have resolved :-)Thanks for the commetns ladies :-)