Breastfeeding till the age of 4 - what do you think?

[lisalisa]

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was there need for anothe dig moondog?
herculees how did you bf when child at nursery.
i am suprised that your child went to nursery 8-6 with your views.Or have I miss interpreted you?

why surprised?
I am bf dd who is 2 in october and I've been back at work since she was 5 months.

You dont have to be a long term bf and feel that women should stay at home you know. The two arent the same thing.

DS1 was only bf to 18 months, but he was, and is, anything but clingy. He's never been clingy.

From what I know, hercules's views are the current belief - if children are secure that you will always be around, they don't stress about you going away for a few hours here and there, or longer. DS1 went to nursery from 9-5 from 1 year to just over 2, 2 days per week.

I wonder if clingyness is about genetics, or about environment and parental expectations (probably both, to be realistic). I expect my kids to be brave and outgoing and sociable, and ta-da, they are. I like being out in noisy busy places, and I like my kids mixing in with crowds of people. They both like these things. But then again, both DH and I are pretty sociable and brave, so maybe that's it.

so how do you breast feed while he is at nursery?
Did you express? and feed via a bottle? So is it the breast milk you are discussing or brast feeding?

Giving your own breastmilk via a bottle is essentially the same as breastfeeding. Particularly if you're giving the milk direct most of the time.

What difference does it make if you give bottles of your own milk sometimes?

Eh? Ds went to nursery when he was 3 so no need for any bottles.
DD had some bottles of expressed milk and/or formula when I was at work.

Not sure I understand the point you are trying to make...

none at all!!! so if the mother..who the thread started about had given a bottle to a 4 year old would there have been such an interest or evenin a cup.
A few are going on about breastfeeding and how you should persevere. So if you find it difficult why not express!!!
And why would feeding bm from a bottle make a child clingy!! I think Hercules came over as you should BREASTfeed...never letting on the fact she hands her baby over to be looked after by someone else!!!!

you've lost me.....

Sorry maybe that came across badly!!! But I am seeing red here!!
I cant get over the way some people dictate to others!!!
Only knowing book facts and not taking into consideration individual situations!!!

actually dh looks after dd.....

seems you've made one or two assumptions here.........

I think you need to reread my posts and explain yourself a little clearer.

you said your bf child was in nursery 8 till 6

I will await your justification for the comments about me.

Yes.

YEs, my bf child was in nursery from 8 to 6.

sorry, this thing about clingyness again. But if you are not around from 8-6 from when they are a young age. How would they know you are coming back. A friend of mine is either at work or out with friends with out her child, most of the time and her baby is the complete opposite to clingy and has always has been. I think i will stick to my guns and think it is a gene thing...

PS i remember the doctor winston bloke on the telly. he has done an experiment and is watching 5 families every three years (i think). He made mothers wit in a room and play with there baby and then leave. The ones that did not even notice she was gone, would grow up less socaible. The ones that noticed she was gone but did not cry very much would be confident and sociable becuase they new she was coming back. The ones who cried all the time would not be confident and sociable.
Awww - i new is hould have taped it.

And if your child is fed via a bottle you can not use it as an example for breast fed babies being clingy or otherwise!
Personally I have never seen any evidence of breast fed babies being clingy and I think it is sad when people suggest it..I know it wasnt you!
I have no problem with anyone believing in anything but dont try and force it on others!!

what do I need to justify?

Louise - of course it is difficult to say what causes clinginess. That's why it is so ludicrous to say breastfeeding does.

But ds never had a bottle apart from when he was a day old.

Where have I said people should breastfeed??

as my teenager would say 'whatever'

you seem to be avoiding what I am asking.
How did you feed the child that was in nursery?

I think Hercules came over as you should BREASTfeed...never letting on the fact she hands her baby over to be looked after by someone else!!!!
Perhaps you'd like to justify the above comments?

I didnt. The nursery staff did.

ok..From what age did your child that went to nursery start nursery?

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