I'm a 1st time mum successfully and happily BF-ing my 8 day old son, and I feel upset and angry reading this thread. There is judgement and mockery, actually, going on here, and I want those doing it to know how counter productive it is for those of us new mums prepared to give BF-ing a damn good go.
I'm currently trying to figure out the whats/hows/wherefores of BF-ing in public. I have very large breasts, a new baby who is learning to feed with me, and can fuss when latching on, and I want to minimise how much I expose myself in public.
I'm not a stoopid woman cowed by anti-BF-ing attitudes - I'm someone with a history of sexual abuse who reacts very badly to the idea of any coerced exposure, and really does NOT want uninvited attention.
I don't know yet what I'm going to do. The 'two tops plus a bra' arrangement doesn't appeal in the heat of July, and as I say, given the latching on dance we have atm, the idea of a 'quick flash' is laughable. Maybe a muslin - maybe something else - maybe just very careful planning. I'm still working it out.
But whatever I do, I do NOT want another BF-ing mother, of all people! looking at me and deciding my arrangement is 'ridiculous'. And if you see me BF-ing out and about, whatever I'm doing, and whatever you think about it, please, don't come over and tell me 'not to bother' doing it. It will make me feel observed, judged and commented on in a hugely unwelcome way.