How often do you BF your 10m old?

[bohemianbint]

I am stopping night feeds and demand feeds in the day for my own sanity. I feel a bit guilty about it but it really is necessary after 10m of non-stop feeding round the clock.

But I dunno how to proceed from here really, should I just do it after every meal and first and last thing? Will that be enough?

at 10m ds2 was feeding at least 2 hourly during the day, usually more.
nighttimes we had managed to cut down to about 3 or 4 feeds but he was still waking between those

that doens't help you much though does it? lol

Thanks TIY!

DS2 is the same; he's not latching on for long but will do it regularly. But I'm finding it so restrictive now and have got myself into a bit of a state.

I have to say, last night was the second night with no night feed whatsoever. He slept most of 7-7am with just two wake ups, one at midnight and one at 3am. We got him back to sleep easily and it's such a massive improvement. (Was waking me hourly in the night last week, was nearly suicidal!)

I just am unsure what to do in the day, as I really need to encourage him to eat a bit more solid food as well. (I know milk is the main part but he eats bugger all and he's not far off 1!)

I have ff my baby she is now 2.5, i was night feeding her every 2 hours until she was 21 months, i got so fed up like you, so i follwed advice of other mums to just offer her water. At first she did not like it, i just told her its water now in the night but she got used to it after a while and stopped waking up so frequently. I hope that this helps somewhat. I was demand feeding my daughter when she was 1-1.5 as a result she was not eating as much solids, so on advice of other mums i offered her first solids before the milk and gradually as she got older she had less milk in the day. now she only has milk before her nap, bedtime and at 6 when she wakes up.

Thanks piglet! Bumping for the evening people - any experience?

thats ok hope that it helps

bump!

Katie is ten months old and has 2 night feeds and 4-6 feeds in the day. If she isn't feeling her best she might have lots of little comfort snacks too.

Sassyfrassy - thanks for replying! That is interesting. I feel a bit tight now as have dropped DS down to about 4-5 total in 24 hours, I think. He seems happy enough at night and now only wakes up once or twice, rather than the once an hour he was pulling last week - but I do wonder if I should up his day feeds.

How is Katie eating solids? Do you find she eats less because she feeds more? DS2 has been a bit take it or leave it really...

DS is 10 months. He has a feed in the morning, one in the afternoon and one at bed time.

Dd was feeding 7-9 times a day at 11 months (I posted about it at the time as I was so weary with it!). Ds is only 8 months currently, but feeds upon waking (unless VERY close to last night feed), before his morning nap, before his afternoon nap, and before bed, plus 2 or 3 times overnight. Occasionally he'll have extra in the day, but only if he's not eaten much, and he's fairly good with solids.

How on earth have you managed to get him back to sleep without feeding in the night?!

Thanks for the replies!

Can'tSleep - I dunno if we've just got lucky, or that he's only just ready for it, but we've just started putting him in a cot on his own his own and he sleeps so much better. He's now only waking twice, and when he does DH goes in and shhhhhhhhhh's him, and he usually goes off in about 2 minutes. We were forced into changing things really but thankfully it seems to be at the right time.

(Bit more structure in the day as well, same bedtime every night and he stays in the dark 7-7am. We haven't had to leave him to cry either or it would be a different story...)

DD2 is 9 months and is still fed on demand. We had started getting a bit more strict with nightfeeds (only when actually upset, and not just when grumpy and fancying a snack!) but she started waking up DD1, so that's gone by the wayside for a while. Physiologically an older baby can go through the night, as their stomachs are big enough to take on enough food in the day. It's just a question of how much grief you are willing to take. We found that DD1 never gave up any nighttime feeds of her own account and we had to put up with a lot of grizzling, which I hated. It came down to needing my sleep for my own sanity, in the end.

I am happy to keep up lots of feeding in the day, if it will get me a night's sleep.

DS is eight months and feeds five time a day, just in the day time. We stopped doing night feeds about 6 weeks ago and he now sleeps sooooo much better.

Isn't it weird? I bet we could have stopped sooner. Wish he'd mentioned it.

At 10 months I was feeding just before bed and first thing in the morning. I went back to work when DD was 8 months so had no choice but to stop day feeds then. I did sometimes wonder if she was getting enough, but having stopped altogether at almost 16 months I'm now starting to put weight on which must be because DD's not sucking all the calories out of me any more .

I felt like that bohemian. I was doing a dreamfeed at 11 every night and when I stopped DS didn't even wake wondering where the feed was...I was really pleased but left wondering if I could have dropped it sooner!

my ds has approx 6 feeds a day, sometimes 1 less, sometimes 1 or 2 more. He is mostly sleeping through but every few days he will wake and I do just whack him on the boob as it is a sure fire way of getting him back off happily and quickly.

I occasionally wonder if this is right (by now dd was fully ff) but I figure all babies are different, so friends whose baies have 3 in 24 hours are just a different make up to my ds.

He eats HEAPS, milk never seems to take the edge off his appetite - or if it does, i'd hate to see how much he would devour with fewer bfs .