So here's the thing I'm going to my in laws for Christmas and I'm not sure how I am going to deal with feeding my 4 month old son. He is exclusively breastfed, born on the 25th centile weight wise and has followed this line ever since. However my mil thinks that demand feeding is making him fat. She did the 10 mins each side every 4 hours and so that is gospel as far as she is concerened. She has spent 3 months telling me he doesn't need fed, if I am on the phone to her and I'm feeding she tells me he is "well enough covered" and doesn't need any more. She has physically grabbed my boob and pulled it out of his mouth one Saturday evening as he was feeding a lot ( she had had a glass of wine during Strictly Come Dancing but I don't think that excuses her). The last time we visited them overnight both mil and fil kept carrying him off when he was crying to stop me feeding and I ended up hiding in the bedroom so they wouldn't know when I was. My mil follows me when I am changing him and pokes him and says how chubby he is. It is totally depressing. My husband eventually phoned them and told them very nicely that my ds wasn't fat and they were to butt out. This resulted in my mil phoning me to tell me that I was oversensitive and that her and her next door neighbour had diagnosed me with pnd.
I thought they had stopped this nonsense but this weekend I said the hv had told me that I should maybe wean him after 5 months if his weight plateaued as he is extremely active. My mil then told me that it would be a good thing if he didn't put on anymore weight and I shouldn't wean him as he would get fat.
How the f* am I going to get through 3 days of this at xmas. Should I just feed him in the loo rather than be tutted at - the last time my fil even started timing between feeds.I have showed them a book on demand feeding and even showed him his weight chart but it has made no difference. It is really making me q anxious about his first xmas.My dh doesn't really understand how much they get to me he just tells me to ignore them like he does but it's hard to.
Advice please -I want to avoid causing a scene as there will be other people there.