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Supernanny tonight - 3 yr old BF

56 replies

wittyusername · 24/09/2008 14:01

Saw an ad for Supernanny tonight, one of the children is 3 and has up to ten feeds per day. Let's see if Supernanny sees this as a "problem" .

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AnarchyAunt · 24/09/2008 14:01

You bet she will.

AnarchyAunt · 24/09/2008 14:03

Srprise surprise

scaredoflove · 24/09/2008 14:06

I'm guessing the parents wouldn't have volunteered to go on the program if they were happy with situation, can't blame supernanny for that one

If parents want help, then the exbf is a problem for them. If they were happy to continue exbf they wouldn't be asking for help

CoolYourJets · 24/09/2008 14:24

Just had a fish about her website and her BF info is actually very good. Includes 6m excl, at least 2yrs advice. Am startled!

bythepowerofgreyskull · 24/09/2008 14:26

I would say that her attitude to alot of things seems to be that do it your way if it works for you - but at the point it isn't then don't moan about it - do something to change it.

I think this will include BF a 3 year old. agree with scaredoflove. they are obviously not happy but don't know how to bring it to an end.

Bluebutterfly · 24/09/2008 14:50

I have no issue with extended bfing, but I think that there probably are circumstances where continuing to bf up to 10 feeds a day and to the point where a 3 year old can't "bear" to be apart from her mother (at the expense of taking care other children and their evident problems) is a problem.

Just because someone bf's at 3 doesn't innately make them a good parent... it could just be a "earth- mother" cover for deeper problems.

I am sure I will get hounded for this (btw I am no massive fan of Supernanny, but I hate assumptions that suggest "one" way is always best and it seems that this is where this thread is headed...)

Oblomov · 24/09/2008 14:59

10 feeds a day does seem like alot.
It must be hindering life/ the rest of the family, or else they wouldn't be on the programme.

mawbroon · 24/09/2008 15:10

Coolyourjets, I started a thread yonks ago about some of the info on her website about breastfeeding. I can't remember offhand what my issues were, but there were a couple of real clangers in there.

I will have a look and see if they are still there, and if i can remember what there were! I emailed them at the time to complain, but probably nothing was done about it...

mawbroon · 24/09/2008 15:25

on this page

I complained about the bit about breasts becoming hot and uncomfortable when milk comes in. Also, the bit about tiredness and stress afecting your milk. And the bit about giving a bottle not putting your baby off breastfeeding.

And I see they haven't taken a blind bit of notice of my complaint as it's still all there.

PuzzleRocks · 24/09/2008 15:28

Does anyone know if Supernanny has her own children?

Flibbertyjibbet · 24/09/2008 15:35

No she hasn't.

AnarchyAunt · 24/09/2008 15:38

No she doesn't have any children.

I'm not disagreeing that the family must have an issue with it, hence calling in Supernanny. If they want to stop then they should do, and three years is very good going!

But I seem to remember at least one other episode where she has stepped in to 'deal with' extended BF, and my suspicion is that she is of the Breast is Best (for-six-months-as-per-guidelines-and-after-that-its-for-the-mother) school of thought. I cannot imagine she would do a programme with a BF 3yo who also had separate behaviour problems and not tell them to stop BF, iyswim.

FabioVicePeeperPlopper · 24/09/2008 15:50

I think if you've bf for three years you are well versed in telling people to stick it if they start with the 'are you still bfing' comments, so I can't imagine Jojo stopping the bfing unless the mother has decided it's time to.

mawbroon - the bit about giving a bottle not putting your baby off breastfeeding - what were your objections?

mawbroon · 24/09/2008 17:07

It's the underlying message that it is fine to give your baby formula (or EBM) without any mention that it can impact on your supply that i object to. The mother needs to have all the information to make a decision about what is best in her situation, and omitting to mention the risk to supply is not giving all the facts IMO.

There is also no mention of the possbility that the baby may not feed from the bottle (see the numerous MN threads about this) and that there are other options eg cup feeding

AnarchyAunt · 24/09/2008 20:01

Anyone watching it?

noonki · 24/09/2008 20:07

Mawroon 0 my breast were totally uncomfortable and hot when my milk comes in

and when my nan lost her husband (when her baby was 6 weeks old) her milk dried up almost instantly.

noonki · 24/09/2008 20:10

yes - but it is a terrible reception here for some reason

francesrivis · 24/09/2008 20:30

watching it at the moment - I totally understand why the parents want to cut down the number of bfs, but supernanny's approach seems to be a bit all or nothing - not sure why she couldn't have suggested continuing with morning and evening bfs if this is acceptable to the parents. Not keen on her comment about there being "nothing nutritional in breast milk that she couldn't get from food" either!

pointydog · 24/09/2008 20:31

It is a problem for this family, though, isn't it.

theultimatethreadkiller · 24/09/2008 20:39

The problem is that the breastfeeding at night results in the husband having to sleep on the floor.

mawbroon · 24/09/2008 20:49

noonki - I don't doubt that they were, but she says that your breast will feel this way. Mine didn't, I didn't feel my milk come in at all. It needs to say that some women will experience this, while others may feel nothing at all, or somewhere in between.

Tiktok has posted many times on here about stress and tiredness having no effect on milk production.

Anyway, this thread is about supernanny's programme tonight which I thought was on at 9pm! Will have to watch on 4+1 then!

desertgirl · 24/09/2008 20:56

mawbroon, interesting about tiredness and stress - I express at work, so I have a pretty good idea of how my supply is doing, and I know that for me, lack of sleep has more effect on it than anything else (when it's more than just the usual chronic-mother-of-2-sleep-deprivation. I haven't seen tiktok's other posts on the subject, but I'm really surprised that it's not supposed to have an effect.... feel like I'm doing something wrong now!

noonki · 24/09/2008 21:06

mawbroon - fair dos

francisrivis - I agree

tiktok · 24/09/2008 21:08

Stress and tiredness may impact on what you get by expressing - no research on that.

But in terms of breastfeeding direct, the research is pretty clear - babies thrive whatever the mother's tiredness and stress levels.

This is not the same as saying that supply does not vary day by day - it may well do. It does, anyway, with the frequency of breastfeeding. But in the medium to long term, supply is maintained just fine, whether or not the mother is stressed or tired or not.

Sudden shock can have a sudden impact, and milk may refuse to 'let down' and none is available to the baby. It should not mean a permanent loss of milk though.

tiktok · 24/09/2008 21:09

desertgirl - why would this mean you felt you were doing something 'wrong'??? Maybe in your own individual case, you see a link between how you feel and what goes into the pump!

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