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Supernanny tonight - 3 yr old BF

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wittyusername · 24/09/2008 14:01

Saw an ad for Supernanny tonight, one of the children is 3 and has up to ten feeds per day. Let's see if Supernanny sees this as a "problem" .

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katface · 25/09/2008 19:32

quick weaning may work with some children (i think it would have worked fine with ds although i never tried it he self-weaned) but is quite traumatic for others. i don't like the promotion of the idea that sudden weaning is ok, it really isn't.

i agree that the programme was not about ONE child, but about 3, so the parents treatment of all 3 was pretty appalling.

i just get annoyed when programmes like this put forward AS USUAL the "freaky" nature of a bf toddler, when in fact it is the most natural thing in the world. Ch 4 is a major culprit in this, they did that awful programme a few years ago called "Extraordinary BF". the same rubbish again, the women were made to look like freaks.

the average age of self-weaning globally is between 3 - 4, the average age of primates (our closest animal relatives) weaning off their mother's breast is equivalent to 7 (human) years. In fact before fomula was invented MOST toddlers were bf an average of 3 - 4 years.

Shakespear talks about Juliet (Romeo & Juliet) being bf until she was over 3 years old, so even here we were bf-ing children up to 3 - 4 years, something frowned upon by most people I know today, but it was socially acceptable a few generations ago.

indeed so was exposing ones boobs in public to bf, even in the extremely uptight Victorian era, it was quite normal for a woman to take her boobs out and bf an older child.

StealthPolarBear · 25/09/2008 20:16

I'm biased as I know DS would be devestated

EBenes · 26/09/2008 14:14

I just saw this and thought the abrupt cold turkey weaning would be horrific and difficult, especially coupled with the end of co-sleeping - but the fact is, the little girl took to it very well, behaving better than my little girl does with CONSIDERABLY less taxing deprivations, and quickly seemed happy and independent - she also maintained a lot of close cuddling with her mum to the end.

I felt very sorry for the whole family - the dad seemed like a kind man with a nice face, and I didn't think he really had anger management issues at all. Yes, he behaved rather childishly, but I personally know many angrier men who I wouldn't have worried about it.

It was a very upsetting programme, all in all. I think they were a nice, non-violent couple, who had just let things get to a bad state.

katface · 28/09/2008 17:24

still haven't seen the whole doc. but if she did cope well that is yet another plus for a bf toddler - unlike the negative stuff one hears about it i.e. bf toddlers are "clingy" (although some may find the cold turkey method difficult) in the long-run it is a well-researched that bf toddlers are well-adjusted and independent. so if she did cope well, i am not in the least surprised.

i still won't support the sudden drop in bf though. i don't think it is a nice thing to do. in fact it is unnecessary. they could simply have dropped the feeds. it would have been a good way of teaching all the children self-descipline, by saying "look, your sister has agreed to stop feeding all day, she is only going to have one morning and one night feed from now on, and we want you all to learn from this, bla...bla..." and then give all of them appropriate rewards for good behaviour.

they wasted an opportunity there. i think cold turkey teaches a child absolutely nothing.

PinkTulips · 28/09/2008 18:31

'I complained about the bit about breasts becoming hot and uncomfortable when milk comes in'

mawbroon, can see your point re the 'a bottle does no harm' issue but i've got to say, hot and uncomfortable didn't even begin to describe what my boobs felt like when my milk came in! and as for stress affecting bf... i've heard of alot of cases where severe stress has impacted on bfing, and i know for myself i fed more easily when i was relaxed and had had more than a an hours sleep the night before.

mawbroon · 28/09/2008 20:10

Pinktulips - I am not saying that people don't experience hot and painful breasts. My issue is with the wording. She says that you will experience it which is simply not true!!

Sudden or severe stress can affect the let down reflex, but it doesn't make the milk suddenly dry up which is what some people would have you believe.

I have just tried to find the page by linking to my old thread, and funnily enough the link doesn't work any more. Wonder why....

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