Father refusing to give my daughter

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My child father has refused to give back my 14 month old girl. She is breastfeeding at night and I’m massively concerned.

How long has he had her? When is he supposed to give her back and why is he refusing?

What is the story here?

He’s had her since Friday and I went to collect her today and he refused I called the police and they didn’t do anything

Refusing cause I’ve got a partner and he didn’t like a Facebook photo he saw

Is there a court order that states his access to her? And presumably he's on birth certificate so he had parental responsibility?

You may have to get emergency appointment with a solicitor tomorrow and try to get a court order to get her returned.

Whst a bastard!

That’s what my plan is but cause she goes to him regularly they might not see it as an emergency. Oh he’s a prick

If she's breast fed she might hopefully keep him up all night, when he's sleep deprived enough he will want to bring her back.

Is there a court order? If not you must get one.

Nothing in place yet but how long can I go without her while a court order goes through

Might sound like a stupid question but why don’t you just go over there and get her? Do you have a brother or a parent you can take with you?

Does he have any legitimate safeguarding concerns based on the photo he has seen? Or is he just taking you moving on poorly and weaponising your shared child?

You can apply for an emergency hearing. This can be as quick as a few days. Although you have Xmas coming up. Was there a disagreement about who was going to have your child for Xmas ?

I'm sorry you are going through this. I know the pain from experience. X

You need to make an emergency application tomorrow.
When you say new partner, how new? Is he having contact with your baby?

The police must a least do a welfare check. Tell them your dd is bf and won't take a bottle /cup. If they turn up and she is hysterical they will have to bring her back. Ring your local court tomorrow and ask about emergency court order..

Does he have concerns about your new partner?

Don't lie, if the little one uses a cup or a bottle during the day, you can't pretend they won't manage
Definitely seek legal help right away, to establish where she is meant to stay

None of this is true. They don't have to do a welfare check and they can't remove the baby from her father even if they did do one, unless he had actually harmed her.

What was the photo?

Section 47 of the 1989 children's welfare act says they absolutely will do a welfare check. If a baby is denied it's source of nutrition and comfort isn't that abuse? A distressed baby isn't going to be left in such a situation...

Section 47 applies where there is evidence that a child is at risk of significant harm. The baby is still alive and is therefore drinking milk. It's a shit thing the father has done but it's not illegal and it's not neglect so s47 doesn't apply. Also it's called the children act not the children's welfare act.

this is a terrible idea, don’t lie as it will make you look bad in the long run . This lie will also be incredibly easy to prove false they won’t even have to look at your child to know it’s not true

Was it an agreement he had her from Friday to Sunday? Because if it was the needing her back because of breastfeeding won't stand. Log with the police and get an emergency hearing like others have suggested

Don't lie to the police. I'd also go round and get her if it's an option for you, with back up.

The Court staff will ask if you think she's at risk of harm and it's unlikely to be rushed if she isn't.

Do make the application first thing as for a lot of Judges, tomorrow will be their last day until after New Year so don't expect to put an application in tomorrow in the afternoon and expect it to be dealt with.

It's an awful thing to do but without a Child Arrangements Order in place he can keep her and the Police won't bring her back.

What was the post on FB?

Do you believe she is safe? Presumably if she's been there since Friday and you were only due to collect today then she isn't reliant on breastfeeding overnight so I don't think this in itself would be a concern but you both must be desperately missing each other. I hope you can resolve this amicably or, failing that, you can get help to get her back home

That is absolutely correct he thinks I’m putting my daughter around a nonce he’s crazy.