Father refusing to give my daughter

[YourPinkSloth]

My child father has refused to give back my 14 month old girl. She is breastfeeding at night and I’m massively concerned.

Don’t you think I’ll get a solicitor tomorrow to help me

How long have you been with your new partner op?

Highly unlikely as a lot of places are already closed for Christmas

I’ll print the form off and start it asap.

Are you ever going to answer what the photo was of and how long you have been with your partner? Remember the court may not side with you if they think the child may be in danger, you are going to be asked a lot worse

It’s always telling when then OP won’t say how long they’ve been with the new man - why is it always ‘partner’? That’s always used to be for when you’d been together years.

I’d be concerned if a new man was spending time with my baby and had rapidly become a ‘partner’ and part of ‘family’ Christmas things. No new boyfriend should be anywhere near your child for at least a year and you’ve done Clare’s and Sarah’s Law checks on them.

Why are you introducing a new partner to your child this early on??? It's no surprise baby's Dad is pissed off especially when there's probably been no warning. So on the photo your baby is sat on new guys lap??

Why does he think he's a paedo???

Why does he think that?

I'm assuming this partner is new because the OP's first post give that impression but I could be wrong! Also it's possible for OP's ex to be a prick whilst ALSO being a safeguarding risk by introducing new boyfriends into the mix far too fast.

Why are you putting pictures on Facebook of your 1 year old sat on your new boyfriends lap? Not saying at all that means your ex should be refusing to hand back of course, but come on op, what on earth possessed you.

of course @CandyLeBonBon withholding a child is not the best way to deal with a safeguarding concern, or at least not without some proper communication, but also surely there’s a good reason why the OP doesn’t want the police to visit to support with handover at the end of agreed custody? or even to consult them?

Ok that’s abit weird. I’d think the same thing. He’s. New partner and you are already getting a ‘family’ Santa photo? And your daughter is sitting on his lap not yours or Santa’s? I’d be concerned too tbh.

OP, the fact that you won’t answer questions asking why your ex thinks your new boyfriend is a pedophile is quite concerning.

No absolutely - I was agreeing with you - just adding a my two penne'th about the fact that both parents can both act against the child's best interests simultaneously.

He moved in with his new partner 6 weeks after split and my daughter went round her from the start double standard

@YourPinkSloth please make all your social
media posts visible only to friends (not friends of friends) and make sure ex is not a friend. That doesn’t help with the immediate issue but hopefully will avoid future issues.

@YourPinkSloth how can you accuse anyone on here of holding 'double standards' when that information was completely absent in your OP?

Neither of you appear to have your child's best interests at heart, tbh.

Is he on the birth certificate @YourPinkSloth ?

OP you're not clarifying much which is making it complicated to advise but:

Is Dad on the birth certificate?

Is there already a court order in place for the custody arrangement currently in place?

Why does your ex partner think your child is at risk from a predator?

The advice regarding going to court for an emergency order is correct, police can't help with parental disagreements over custody, unless the child is at risk.

Given you're happy for the child to be with Dad from Friday to Sunday despite breastfeeding, that wouldn't be sufficient.

So the photo was of your child sitting on your new partners knee?
Why would you think that was an appropriate thing to do, let alone take a photo of and share on FB?
I am not sayng your EX isn't an arsehole but it doesn't sound like you are properly safeguarding your child

Plus, @YourPinkSloth new boyfriends are a notorious red flag in child abuse cases (I am the 'child' of such a case). Your ex may be a prick but you are clearly trying to play happy families with a man you've known for 5 minutes.

Fill in the forms and get your daughter back, then undertake mediation to agree boundaries and contact parameters and get an agreed court order in place, so you all know where you stand. Then put your tiny daughter front and central and keep your child and your love life separate,

Female partners of fathers pose a negligible risk of harm to children, whereas male partners of mothers are significantly likely to pose a risk of harm to children so it's not the same. How long have you known him?

So you are both poor parents. Why did you let your little baby be around a stranger like that? I think you both need social services help with parenting. The baby's father is clearly wrong to withhold the baby but you both need help to keep this child safe, this may be a blessing in the long run.

New partner and you are already getting a ‘family’ Santa photo?

Mmmm.

How long have you known this guy op? How long have you been together?